[This message edited by Tigaress at 6:43 PM, July 6th (Sunday)]
Sometimes I hear my voice, and it's been here, silent all these years. I've been here, silent all these years.
If you're not ready to talk then don't. You don't have to. If you want to, I just read another post that said they talked about A stuff on neutral ground and it helped them. I know it's hard to stay calm but I find when I do, out talks are more productive.
I am 3 years out from Dday, with a somewhat remorseful WH,& we all live together again ( WH, I & our 4 kids) & we are trying to R,
& I am still "Not at all over it."
We BSs have been dealt an immense trauma which will take time to heal from. Everyone heals at their own rate. I have my own reasons, which I am aware of, why it has taken me as long as it has to get to where I am at this moment.
You will heal at your own rate, R or D.
Sending you strength. (((Tigaress)))
Post, post and post! That is what this forum is for. I know you are all over the board with your emotions and with what you want to do. Basically, YOU get to call all the shots right now.
Maybe texting him instead of talking to him would be better than talking right now?
Focus on YOU - You - YOU! You are the center of your future, whatever you decide that to be. Avoid making any definitive life decisions right, allow yourself time to go through all the stages of grief - unfortunately, it will be a roller coaster and you will be on the ride when you don't even want to be on it.
Again, that is what we are here for! This cannot be gone through alone and I chose to listen to a wise woman on this forum and NOT tell people in my life (friends and family) because they tend interject what THEY would do; meaning well of course, but it is more baggage than I needed.
Sending you prayers for strength and peace.