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Seriouslystomped posted 7/7/2014 00:03 AM

So WH left today to go fishing/camping with a friend until Tuesday. We have had been sleeping in separate rooms while we try to work things out and are both in IC. He wants to R and seems to be trying. Swears he is not gay or bi just wants us to work. I am trying to slowly build something but can't trust yet. So, I just have a funny feeling tonight and I go in the room and start looking through everything. Guess what I find behind the TV. Porn videos and and a good sized toy.. Oh, and one of the videos was Transvesites!! . I don't know why I should be shocked at this but I am. He has gone from women to men to this. So much for him swearing he is not using porn which was supposedly an excuse why the last A happened. I am grossed out

FightingBack posted 7/7/2014 00:50 AM


I am in no position to give any advice, but my heart goes out to you. Your H needs help. I am sure you are both in pain and I'm so sorry.

Ostrich80 posted 7/7/2014 00:55 AM

SS..I'm so sorry. What are you going to do?

FixYou71 posted 7/7/2014 01:01 AM

Ugh. My heart sinks for you. I cant imagine. I am curious how he has been acting since your last dday. Did you think he was truly remorseful or did you have reservations about wether it was just regret for being found out? Were there requirements/consequences placed in him after dday? I read your posts to try to learn more but there are only a few.
My heart truly goes out to you. I am so sorry.

FightingBack posted 7/7/2014 01:12 AM

I just read your other posts also. And I've changed my mind about giving advice.


As a Christian, I don't believe that we have to stay in a bad situation because it is the Lord's plan for us. He gave us free will to make choices. And He will help those who help themselves.

Look at it this way. His plan may be for you to change your life course. Forgive if you feel that it is a Christian requirement, but look to truth and light for your own sake and leave the pain and darkness behind.

((((Hugs to you))))

worried_lady posted 7/7/2014 06:29 AM

Best advice I was given...............Sometimes you can't save him but you can save yourself. Get tested!!!!

Sunnydaysahead posted 7/7/2014 09:28 AM

So sorry for your pain. Has your H been to an IC who specializes in SA?

Please get tested! Stay strong...

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