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User Topic: Dreams of OW
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Default  Posted: 9:30 AM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I woke up three times last night in the middle of a dream about OW. 3 times in the same dream. Does it ever stop??

Posts: 1064 | Registered: Mar 2006
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Default  Posted: 9:40 AM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I dreamt of OW a few times.
I remember my last dream of her: she was sitting on a bed, being very nice to me and I sucker punched her, but then I was afraif that she files a report so I was trying to be nice to her... After punching her.

Me: BW.
Him: WH. EA/PA (Sept. 2012 to June 2013)
NC June 2013

He denied the PA until I ended up asking the OW in June 2014. She told me everything.

Posts: 149 | Registered: Jul 2014
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Default  Posted: 10:38 AM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No dreams of her what so ever...thank GOD!
I do wish I could have seen her the moment she got thrown under the bus though!

3 adult children 1D 2S
LTA 2010-2012
D-day - 11-11-2012
status - reconciling and very hopeful

" I will not define myself by what went wrong yesterday when I can draw upon Life and Love right now." R.R

Posts: 2530 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: sunny california
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Red  Posted: 10:39 AM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You guys...

If you continue to use this as a vent thread, we're going to be forced to move it to General.

The original author posted in the Recon forum for a reason, please respect it.

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.

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Default  Posted: 10:43 AM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I dream about potential other women... ugh.

Posts: 7613 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest
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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Perhaps it is related to 'A' season or that she hasn't contacted H in 4 months? (last contact was a blocked call to inform him that she bought a house, with her post A-husband and baby. He has since changed his number and magically the phone calls appeared to have stopped).

The dream was of past events.

It's hard to let go when my own subconscious pulls me back in. Now, today, I'm stuck in the past, mentally replaying those months.

I am not the type to look for deep meaning in my dreams however, I do see that often my dreams are "wake up calls" for things happening now. But, these were dreams of the past?

[This message edited by Tesa at 2:30 PM, July 7th (Monday)]

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Default  Posted: 5:31 PM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tesa, that's a good question. Right after DDay I dreamed of her at least once a week. Sometimes more. As the years have gone by, it's been less frequent. It still happens, but they're not the body-freezing nightmares I use to have. It's more of a "oh, it's blah-blah". She's just another person who shows up. I don't have the dreams when I'm triggered, it was always a bit of a shock to have them for no reason (besides, you know, the whole cheating thing ). I no longer fear she'll be showing up in them any longer, as opposed to 2 or 3 years ago when I would dread bedtime.

DDay 07/26/2011, 8 month EA/PA with
friend of our family. Months of TT.
DDay#2 Early spring 2012, confirmed EA with another woman.

Posts: 156 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Sunny South
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Default  Posted: 12:45 AM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I get it Tesa. It's always surprising to me when this happens. I had a dream about OW out of the blue just a couple of days ago. It's not the same as mind movies. It's usually just some random dream with OW in it. For me, the dreams always have her on the edges of our a rented house or room...just visiting or trying to weasel in. I usually tell her to go away and she says something nasty to me or she or H says that she is sticking around for awhile. It usually is related to affair season or a time of the year when it is possible I could run in to her. For me, it's just my brain trying to work something out.

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