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User Topic: Making a bad situation worse?
♀ 43247
Member # 43247
Default  Posted: 3:30 PM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My husband had an EA with a co-worker (most probably a PA too, I doubt they were only talking about their days, like he wants me to believe).

I am itching to sender COW BH an email, with all my findings, and the phone's bill, where he can see for himself the 1700 texts in September.

My WH was the COW's manager in a big firm. I already checked if she could sue us for sexual harassment, but since it was 2 consensual adults, it's not possible. (At least one good news).

I would love to get the transcripts of the texts, because if there were any arrangements to meet at a hotel, they probably texted. So I could finally know for sure. However, to get the transcripts, I will need to go through my wH's boss. And this is a real problem, because my WH would most probably get the sack (due to the amount of texts), and so we would lose our only income.

Anybody has any idea how to get the transcripts, or if it's a good idea to go through his boss?

Thanks for your help.

Divorced and staying divorced.

Posts: 804 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: Texas
♂ 42997
Member # 42997
Default  Posted: 4:40 PM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Depending on what type of phone it is, there are data recovery programs however since this happened 10 months ago I'd be willing to wager that it would yield nothing of substance (assuming it has been in use since September). Basically the way data storage works is you have Xgb of storage and once you start deleting things, it becomes available again... but only until something else writes over it (a text, a note, a song, internet history, the list goes on and on).

I used software like this and was only able to recover ~300 of 1500+ texts, the rest were either jumbled beyond belief or no longer there in any way shape or form... and this was within a month of the beginning of her deleting things.

Never apologize for having high standards. People who really want to be in your life will rise up to meet them.

D-day 1/6/2014-1/23/2014

Posts: 194 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: Colorado
♀ 36711
Member # 36711
Default  Posted: 6:08 PM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's probably easier to use a recovery app or program than to get the phone company to provide them- that is usually impossible. You might recover something but since it's been awhile...
ETA- there are people experienced with this in the
Investigative tips forum.

[This message edited by SoVerySadNow at 6:12 PM, July 7th (Monday)]

D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

Posts: 1292 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
♀ 43247
Member # 43247
Default  Posted: 7:36 PM, July 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No, we don't have his phone anymore, it got smashed in 2, accidentally on purpose. I'm regretting this big time, I could have gotten the phone transcripts.

Could the COW BH do anything reg my husband's job, if I send him an email detailing their affair? Could my WH be fired due to the number of texts( (over 3000 in 4 mths)? He was the project manager at the time, she was reporting to somebody below my husband.

Thanks for your help.

Divorced and staying divorced.

Posts: 804 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: Texas
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