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delia1980 posted 7/7/2014 22:24 PM

Can anybody else relate to my story? My fiancee is an opiate addict who slept with her ex (who was providing her drugs) after she relapsed and went out on a binge.
I know my story is wayyy outt but I just wanted to see if anyone else's bf, gf, spouse, etc had the affair while under the influence??

[This message edited by delia1980 at 10:25 PM, July 7th (Monday)]

Flourgirl posted 7/7/2014 22:48 PM

Kinda my WH was 9 months sober from alcohol. His AP told him he deserved to drink and party because he worked so hard to support his family. She said he was too successful to be an alcoholic. He wound up drinking with her and having sex with her that night. Every time they got together there was booze and sex. She wanted him to smoke pot but it wasn't his thing. Definitely an affair under the influence.

smallwonder41 posted 7/8/2014 01:07 AM

My W'S is also an opiate addict. He had 2 years clean after 4 mnths in rehab, then relasped with some percocets last year after our twins were born. I found out months later he started taking suboxone without telling me. He's been on it for about a year now and I guess he thought it was helping him but I feel like I've been living with a total fucking stranger. He seems out of it a lot of the time' has no motivation, can't remember conversations we've had ect. I got us into couples therapy to see if I could get someone else to try and talk some sense into him about this suboxone shit...only to find out he was cheating on me. He's out of the house now and I'm considering taking him back if he dedicates himself to the 12 step program. I'm being told by our therapist that the affair was a symptom of his unchecked addiction, it was a form of using. So our situations are different, but I know what it's like living with an opiate addict and the chaos they bring to your life.

Secrets Kept posted 7/8/2014 13:28 PM

There is a long thread going on right now in JFO from "baseballmom31" who is going through this scenario but with meth.

Maybe you can help each other?!?!

notsoOK posted 7/9/2014 00:02 AM

Yes my W then Fiancé had a 3 month affair with old high school friend. Got her hooked on Xanax. That led to opiates and Adderal. Ended up in Rehab. Years ago but still affects me everyday. We are Married now, happily yet it's still the Gorilla in the room.