I don't have any real advice, since I just reread The 180 myself. But my situation is similar.
I go to events alone - because I have friends and WH does not. We have gone to a few community events together.
Every evening, he watches TV in another room. I am upstairs reading. We are in an informal in-house separation (separate bedrooms) since Dday 2, with our college DS home for the summer.
Doesn't sound like the road to R, does it? But we are both in IC, waiting for MC.
ETA: Remember the 180 isn't about him so continue to ignore him. It gets easier once they are out of the house but the fact that this still irritates you is a sign that you still have some detaching to do. You are on the right path through since you see it for what it is.
[This message edited by 7yrsflushed at 8:51 AM, July 8th (Tuesday)]
Don't let him hoover you back and keep up the 180. Sounds like you are doing well with it and getting yourself stronger. Good for you!!
I still have a LOT of detaching to do.
I realized after all that I am letting him in. Darn! So I do have a long way to go.
I will be much more unavailable and not engage him at all anymore.
Maybe I will make a list of things to do when he is home and I am too. If I have a plan of activities, then I will be far busier and less likely to engage him.
I still cook for him.
I have trouble with that.
Do any of you cook for your WS?
I am not sure what to do on that one.