I am so sorry you have found yourself here. This is a good place with kind hearted people that will speak the truth and try to help even at times when the truth hurts.
Please head to the Healing Library at the upper left hand side of the corner. And read. Read a lot.
No counseling but we dealt with it
How did you deal with the previous affairs? Please read about rugsweeping.
(((Gently))) - your WH is a serial cheater. He cheats because there are no consequences when he does.
Removing her from the phone or FB are only tactics. They will not prevent future affairs.
Your WH needs to get into IC (individual counseling) to understand how and why he continues to betray you. Without understanding this, the behavior will most likely continue.
If nothing changes, nothing changes.
1) Demand NC even if they see each other at work. If they don't work directly with one another there is no need to have any contact.
2) Friends of the affair or the "group" he hangs around with that knew about the hook up are NOT friends of the marriage. He lost his right to "hang out" because he has proven repeatedly that he CANNOT BE TRUSTED.
3) Ask yourself what makes this time different with his "I'm sorry" than the others?
His actions will speak louder than any words. Tread lightly and be aware.
I am sorry you are hurting. Please take care of you. You matter.
There is never an excuse to cheat. NEVER. He owes you more. He owes you honesty and truth.
Stand tall and post often.
[This message edited by 1Faith at 10:58 AM, July 8th (Tuesday)]