[This message edited by whymewhyus at 11:52 AM, July 8th (Tuesday)]
[This message edited by rachelc at 12:39 PM, July 8th (Tuesday)]
me (WW/BS): 48
4 kiddos in mid 20's
“Follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave. Tell the truth and don’t take any shit.”
Do you want to reconcile?
I see a lot of people turn themselves inside out trying to make things work with partners who just don't have it in them to change into healthy beings. Then we see other waywards who had multiples and were able to make a total 180.
The reality is, he can't be remorseful yet. Not in the sense that we mean it. That takes time. He is likely pretty sad he got caught fucking up again.
Has he immediately gone NC, written a NC letter, given you passwords, become transparent and accountable? Those are good first steps to let you see he is serious this time.
And that's the question; what's going to be different this time than last time?
Edited to add: My husband had two affairs and I wish I would have done this.
[This message edited by rachelc at 12:22 PM, July 8th (Tuesday)]
Anything is possible but you really need to think it over.