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tesla posted 7/8/2014 16:24 PM

Finally, I got to pick up Teslet from his time at his dad's. At last week's visitation, when I picked up Teslet, stripper-whore had sent Teslet out with a bag with x-box games and an x-box sensor thing...guess it's called a Kinect. I didn't let Teslet take them with us. I gave them back to stripper whore and thanked her but said we would not be needing these as we weren't going home.

This weekend were some text wranglings with ex-shat...just him being his usual idiot self. But in the course of these texts, he sends

Teslet says that you said he could have his Kinect at home, however you left stripper whore with the impression that that would not be okay. To avoid the conflict, is this something I should put a stop to. It's just he doesn't have the room here and its great to burn off energy.

Whaaaaa???? He doesn't have the room there?? But there's room FOR A STRIPPER POLE? In the LIVING ROOM????
Well, shit, I suppose then that there isn't room for a kid to have his jump around game thingy.
Anywhoooo...my response:

I did not tell Teslet that was ok. If you would keep it over there, I would appreciate it. It's something special for him over there.

Issue over, right?
No, of course not.

I pick up Teslet today and he comes out with an x-box game. I say, what have you got there? He hands me the game and it's some rated T for teen game. So, I take the game back up to stripper whore and say, "Thank you, but Teslet isn't allowed to play these games at my house."

And this bitch looks at me and says with teenage girl attitude, "Well, he earned it and it's supposed to be for him at your house."

I needed every ounce of self control I possessed. And thank god I had my sun glasses on because I know I cocked my head and gave her my teacher look. I wanted to tell this stoooooopid bitch, "Look, I know you are trying to be nice to my son, and I appreciate it. But the next time you get the urge to buy something for him, take the money, put it in an envelope and send Teslet out with that. I'll deduct it from the thousands of dollars that your piece of shit husband owes his son in child support. Oh and remind me the next time that you pick Teslet up to send him over with a book about age appropriate things to do with a FIVE YEAR OLD. Spoiler alert, there are no teenage gaming or tiny tot stripper show chapters."

Instead, I just repeated myself slower and emphasized key words:
"Teslet is NOT allowed to play these games at MY HOUSE."

Jrazz posted 7/8/2014 16:32 PM

Saintly. Saint Tesla. I swear, I was honored and a little awe-struck to be in your presence at the G2G. How you do not murdalize these people with your bare hands every day is honestly beyond me.

LookingforLove posted 7/8/2014 16:33 PM

She sounds like she has the IQ of a Knat....

I would have said to her...

what age is the game rated?

And then asked, how old is my child...

can you not connect the dots???

No wonder she has no boundaries!!!

[This message edited by LookingforLove at 4:34 PM, July 8th (Tuesday)]

caregiver9000 posted 7/8/2014 16:33 PM

oh, lord, the need to rein in the teacher look.... a life long problem I am afraid.

Sheesh, she sure thinks YOU are being difficult, doesn't she?

ah, well. Teslet is HOME!! yay!

carry on.

Gr8Lady posted 7/8/2014 16:54 PM

OMG
Those two SO deserve one another.

Proud you remained the classy, educated mother that you have displayed here on SI.

Teslet has a long road ahead of him, how fortunate he has a secure, stabalizing parent in you.

h0peless posted 7/8/2014 16:57 PM

You probably handled that perfectly but maybe next time some condescension is in order.

metamorphisis posted 7/8/2014 17:22 PM

They have a stripper pole in the living room? How did I miss that? And they have a stripper pole but no room for your child to play? And he owes a kabillion dollars in child support but they think they are "rewarding" him with a teen rated game?
Oh.my.god.

This is right up there with dd's biological father saying "She knows how to get ahold of me if she needs me" when she was TWO.

I'm sorry, I shouldn't laugh but these people are absurd.

SBB posted 7/8/2014 17:41 PM

^^Meta, AYFKM? 2!!!

Tesla, You handled it perfectly. She's just a pawn/minion in that idjat's petty little power play. She probably cops a big serve every time she isn't successful on her mission.

"Well, he earned it and it's supposed to be for him at your house."

As if they have a right to say what goes on at your house. Fucksticks. You know there's a new thing called 'outside' that is brilliant for burning off energy. It does require some parental effort though so I can see why they use games instead.

The sad clown babysits with TV/games too. All.the.time. They hardly play outside when they're over there because they're watching DVDs or playing games the whole time. My 6 and almost 4 y/olds are Angry Birds and Candy Crush addicts.

I wouldn't be so bothered if he gave them educational games. They bug me to play games and I have to show them that I don't have games on my phone/iPad. It will only get worse as they get older.

Nature_Girl posted 7/8/2014 17:48 PM

My ex has tried to tell me what should happen at my home on my time with the kids, too. Didn't fly here, either.

Yeah, she copped an attitude with you. I guess she's getting confident in her Mommy Skillz. Soon she'll be able to give you lessons, Tesla. Show you the error of your ways.

ButterflyGirl posted 7/8/2014 18:03 PM

Whaaaaa???? He doesn't have the room there?? But there's room FOR A STRIPPER POLE? In the LIVING ROOM????

Well, shit, I suppose then that there isn't room for a kid to have his jump around game thingy.

And stripperwhore adds, "No room in the garage either. Been having problems with our chicken fights.."

But Tesla, I'm a little disappointed. They wanna GIVE it to you?? Take that shit, then head to a used electronic shop and see what you can get for it, or trade for an appropriate game or movie..

Or trade it for Wii Dance. Cheaper and less embarassing than the real gym, and it's so fun, especially with the kids. Doesn't need too much room.

I been getting pretty good. think I was Latin in a former life

nekorb posted 7/8/2014 18:12 PM

Wow. I think Bitch did just that. as IF!!! Clearly they have no common sense at all. Ignore as much as possible.

Perhaps you need ot make it really clear that you will handle all of the "entertainment" during your parenting time?

tryingagain74 posted 7/8/2014 19:59 PM

I think that viewing her as though she's a teenager is the way to go. She basically is-- she and your ex-shat are in a state of arrested development, and there's no sense in either taking it personally or getting into it with them (not that you did with stripper whore). That would be like me getting angry when one of my students cops an attitude. It's rarely about me when they're that angry that they give me a hard time. It's about their immaturity, the other issues in their lives, their frustration, etc.

I like to give the "over the glasses" death ray look. I'm saving that for CommandOwife if she ever dares to say anything to me. I'll try to channel your inner calm, tesla, because I'm not too sure that I'll be as nice as you were!

Glad that Teslet is back. You must be very relieved.

ChoosingHope posted 7/8/2014 20:10 PM

I just got so angry reading this that I had to stop and take deep breaths.

T for Teen? For a five-year-old?

It reminded me of my favorite Anne Lamott Quote of all time:

I thought such awful thoughts that I cannot even say them out loud because they would make Jesus want to drink gin straight out of the cat dish.

newlysingle posted 7/8/2014 20:48 PM

You do show great restraint. Thankfully, I've still had no interactions with Hello Kitty, buy I know if be tempted to strangle her over much less. The Gnat and HK also everts in my kids with nonstop TV and video games.

sparkysable posted 7/8/2014 21:50 PM

If that were me, and I am obviously not as mature as Tesla, I'm pretty sure I would have literally cocked my head, gave her my teacher look and said "Bitch, did you just cop an attitude with me? "

The fuck with these people?!

I would keep handing these x box games right back to them. The minute you take one they are going to try to accuse you of stealing it.

IrishLass518 posted 7/8/2014 22:40 PM

I am loving that 2 morally bankrupt people are attempting to determine what is okay at YOUR home. I am shocked that you aren't taking all of the good advice that they are offering.
She is seriously lucky she didn't get a earful of what you REALLY think about the both of them. You are the epitome of self control.

persevere posted 7/8/2014 22:53 PM

I would love to see ex-shat try to bring that up with his attorney what a moron! You handled it beyond perfectly.

Undefinabl3 posted 7/9/2014 09:12 AM

Hahaha...i would have been like "you want to send something home with Teslet that he will actually play with and enjoy? Give me the damn dog"

But alas...that would never work....

It's just he doesn't have the room here and its great to burn off energy.

So basically what he's saying is that he's to fucking lazy to take Teslet on a walk, or to the park, or have friends over, or you know, DO anything with him....he just plops him right down in front of the video game.....Parent of the fucking year right here ladies and Gents.

DeadMumWalking posted 7/9/2014 11:06 AM

What. a. s.t.u.p.i.d. FUCKING BITCH STRIPPER POLE WHORE!!!!!!!

Shoulda known better than to fuck with the Tesla

You go girl!!!!!

PurpleRose posted 7/9/2014 11:39 AM

I bet stripper whore is just so confused...