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User Topic: when can you just love them
Joanh
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Default  Posted: 6:06 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok this is probably going to trigger a few so please be aware.

My question, when is it okay to just just love your BH, without seconding guessing how you love them, meaning am I showing it right, where you can just wake up in the morning and say, I love you so much cause that is just how your feeling, or as your sitting outside and you see him and you just want to say you make heart feel the sky is a the limit.

When can I just be able to love him again. I want to just be, to just love , to quit second guessing every movement every word, to just love. To just be free to love naturally. I know this is a bit confusing, its hard to put into words, but its breaking my heart and making me cry this wave of feeling.

Is me that's scared to do that, or is it really something else.

I was walking across the yard just now and this came over me and I had to put it out.

[This message edited by Joanh at 6:09 PM, July 8th (Tuesday)]


BH 39
WW 43
D day November 9, 2012
3 children 22, 8, 6
Just....

Posts: 437 | Registered: Apr 2013
Unagie
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Default  Posted: 6:31 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When youre ready to. We second guessed our love and took it for granted during our A's. We loved but in an unhealthy way and did not know how to examine what made it unhealthy. We got comfortable in our love and began to see it as there for our use. Now that we are learning to be healthy people and healthy partners we second guess our love for different reasons examine g each angle of it, scare to fall I to complacency and take it for granted again. Thing is we have all learned a lot and k ow how to self exam I e. The further I to heal g we get the easier it is to identify a feel I g as healthy love and allow it to just be. To feel it without constriction or judgement. Just give it time.


Heartbroken madhatter trying to rebuild

No longer together

"There are times when our reality is nothing but pain, and to escape that pain the mind must leave reality behind." Patrick Rothfuss


Posts: 2811 | Registered: Oct 2012
EvolvingSoul
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Member # 29972
Default  Posted: 7:09 PM, July 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When can I just be able to love him again. I want to just be, to just love , to quit second guessing every movement every word, to just love. To just be free to love naturally. I know this is a bit confusing, its hard to put into words, but its breaking my heart and making me cry this wave of feeling.
Sometimes it feels like just clawing my way to normalcy. And it feels like "normal" should not have to be something that is so hard to achieve.

I feel you, sis.

Still an EvolvingSoul.


Me: WS (53)
Him: Shards (48)
D-day: June 6, 2010
Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010
NC Letter sent: 3/9/11

Digging our way through.


Posts: 312 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: Turning the corner.
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