If I find a few for my area and interests, do I create a profile, join and go? Are there average ages listed, don't want to end up in the 20 something group? And honestly, is it the same 10 people that go every time?
If I find a few for my area and interests, do I create a profile, join and go?
Are there average ages listed, don't want to end up in the 20 something group?
And honestly, is it the same 10 people that go every time?
The only "on the prowl" groups I found pretty much made that clear on their Meetup page, though.
Some of them are based on activities (like running or biking), and have varying ages. Some are more geared toward age groups (Singles over 50), and some are just socializing groups. I joined one that is for people new to town. There were people in their 20s and people in their 40s. When I first started going, I didn't meet anyone I clicked with. I kept going though, and some girls my age moved to town and joined. Now we organize our own events and don't go as much to meetup. When I look at the page, it's a whole new group of people going now. So I think some people use it to meet people, and then stop going. Others continue to go. It just depends on what you want to do.
I've joined some groups and never attended an event because it didn't look like my thing.
I've joined 5, and am active in 2. One is for social singles 45+, another is a dance group. I'm new to this city. I'm not looking to date right now. I'm looking to create a local base of people to do things with. This works for me, I'm finding my way around a large city and meeting people in the process learning local hot spots vs the tourist areas.
Go enjoy, and don't forget to report back. we love hearing about new adventures.
There is never anything to be lost by trying it out!
On the one I frequent, many people there have become pretty good pals of mine, and I've done things with the guys in it separately and a dinner or two (as friends, no real "date" with women who are becoming cordial friends of mine. It's cool. We bounce ideas, some of them decide to tell me about their dates and new boyfriends and ask me for a guy's opinion.. I'm friend-zoned and could care less about it.
I have no current interest in dating, and I'm very focused on work and caring for my kids so no real romantic interest in that department yet. Seems to work well for me. It's boosting my confidence - I never felt right about talking to women socially at all when married, so it's a nice change to be able to tell a girl, "hey let's go see this movie/for coffee/whatever" and just talk. 18+ years since I've done that, and it seems to me that without my internal "must date" worry I can do it without the gripping panic I had before I met STBX (I was, and still am, horribly shy).
At least in my experience that's what the Meetup concept has brought. I call it "insta-friends". A no pressure, group and do neat things together, come if you like with no guilt if you can't, home-base and list of social activities. By now many are not instafriends anymore. They're friends.
I joined a singles group before I met my BF that included 30's,40's and 50's. We had a good time. No pressure and they planned way more events than I could possibly attend.
I am also a current member of a group which happens to be mostly women. I've met some really nice people.
I introduced a friend at work to meetup groups because she is single and was complaining of getting bored. She now runs her own group and holds lots of outings monthly.
If the grass is greener on the other side....water your own lawn.
Start a meetup in your area. I'm willing to bet some others in your area are having the same issues meeting people.