So... as I may have already mentioned, my daughter is starting school here in a couple months. So she needs a decent school. And since I'm a single parent, she needs after school care. Which I'm used to doing, but the place I come from has a huge amount of housing and after school care's never hard to find.
Anyway, I found a place that I'd be willing to live for at least a few months and turned in a rental application. Then I checked on the after school care available at the local school. Completely full.
I'll have to check third parties I guess. I also have some other places to look at. But man, this is getting frustrating. I'm sure I can get this done eventually, but it is so much harder than I'm used to back where I came from. So I'm working on it pretty hard every day when I feel up to it and I guess stopping when I get too tired. Since I'm also recovering from stress and lining up my next job, since my current project is winding down.
I know this is probably easy for some people, but it's new and hard for me. Life experience, eh?
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
Look for alternatives, but keep checking back, ask if there's a waiting list you can join etc. explain your a single dad new to the area- a lot of people are willing to help. Let them.
I am very reluctant to sign a lease at a place without knowing there's an opening or an alternate option I'd be willing to use, so... not too complicated, I'll just do my best to find something, and if I can't, I won't live in this particular place.
Also, there are several moms in my community that provide after school care for a couple of kids on a daily basis. It is pretty much word of mouth and many provide excellent care. Check to see if your school/new community has a facebook page and post your questions there. People aren't shy to post complaints so you may get some good leads and who to stay away from.
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön
Wow. I slept a total of 11 hours last night (got up at my usual time, tried to get some things done, couldn't focus properly, fell asleep again, woke up after 4 more hours...)
I must have needed it.
Stuff's been really screwing with me on some days. :|
I have this tendency to push myself really hard and my body/brain, unsurprisingly, do not always cooperate.
Anyway, I'm giving myself a deadline of Aug 1 for a move in date for housing, so that gives me two weeks to move my carload of stuff in (easy) and pick out some really basic furniture.. bare minimum I'm going to need a bed for me, a bed for her, dining room table and chairs, dining room mat, a desk for the desktop computer, a chair for the desktop computer, basic storage for the bedrooms... maybe having decorations would be nice. I didn't really do that the last place I lived, maybe because I didn't feel like I belonged in that state (my daughter had some stuff in her room, but that's about it).
I don't know how people handle this kind of full restart + kid without spare cash.. actually, I do know, I did it once before when I was completely broke. I got a tax refund and used it to fly my daughter and XWW back from the in laws, to rent a 1 bedroom at $500 a month (daughter got the bedroom), and a friend of mine gave me some really basic furniture. But I figure I have a little more cash this time and I'm trying to make things nice so maybe this is my chance to learn how to do this on my own properly.
I still am not a huge fan of getting more stuff than I need because it makes moving a huge pain, but after that cross country move I have a feeling it won't be that bad...
I honestly think I'm just going to grab rental housing close to a good school fairly close to where I'm likely to be working (and then after that factor commute into desirability of a potential job). I've done this a few times before , so.. that's not too bad. Maybe some day I'll be able to get a house? I've never wanted to do that before, but maybe I can get to the point where I'm functioning well enough to handle that.
Anyway, just some thoughts for today..
I'm just exhausted today. I went out and did some stuff (I'm parked right now) and I feel like falling asleep. I wanted to get some cardio but that may or may not happen today.
On the bright side I'm feeling a little better about housing.. I'm relaxing my "distance to downtown" and (possibly) budget slightly and that seems to turn up more stuff. There are at least a couple things I won't compromise on though, including school quality.