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User Topic: Time together?
♀ 43881
Member # 43881
Default  Posted: 9:14 AM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My H is finally out of the fog and although he doesn't often wish to talk about the A, he does constantly want to spend time with me. I question all the time whether he loves me even though he says he does a hundred times a day. But if he did surely he wouldn't want to spend time with me so that's a good sign , right?

D day 20th may 2014
Me -BS (33)
HIM- WS (35)
OW- 18 yr old COW
Together 7 years, married 1

I can't tell if it's killing me or making me stronger

Don't kick me when I'm down because when I get back up you are f****d!

Posts: 75 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: Uk
♀ 43805
Member # 43805
Default  Posted: 9:18 AM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It sounds like he is being sincere! Don't be afraid to ask for space while you evaluate his sincerity and actions to determine if you can continue to put things back together.

Me: 44
WH: 43
Dday: 6-20-14
He admitted to drunken sex at massage parlor!
Attempting reconciliation

Posts: 76 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: Kentucky
♀ 43496
Member # 43496
Default  Posted: 12:25 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think it sounds good. Out of the fog is good. Saying he loves you is good. Wanting time together is good.

Just make sure he lets you talk about the A as needed- pretty sure no WS wants to talk about it- it's awful, it's embarrassing, it's hurtful, it's wrong and they know it- but they need to be willing to do it as much as their BS needs it. And their willingness to do so demonstrates some remorse.

Me: 33, BW Him: 40, fWH
Together 11y, married 8
2 children (ours) 7/11 & 3/14
D-day 4/18/14 I saw his 'other' email
Working on R, and it's working

Posts: 3226 | Registered: May 2014
♂ 43192
Member # 43192
Default  Posted: 2:04 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think it's good, but always be careful, mine WW doesn't say she loves at all. she mentioned a vacation together but thats it. I said no to the vacation.ask me to do a few other things first then maybe .

[This message edited by funnyguy at 2:05 PM, July 9th (Wednesday)]

Posts: 134 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: Ontario Canada
♀ 43756
Member # 43756
Default  Posted: 2:09 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like forward progress!!! I think it is wonderful he wants to spend time with you. Best of luck on your R!!!

Posts: 243 | Registered: Jun 2014
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