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Blanket posted 7/9/2014 09:14 AM

My H is finally out of the fog and although he doesn't often wish to talk about the A, he does constantly want to spend time with me. I question all the time whether he loves me even though he says he does a hundred times a day. But if he did surely he wouldn't want to spend time with me so that's a good sign , right?

soccermom9 posted 7/9/2014 09:18 AM

It sounds like he is being sincere! Don't be afraid to ask for space while you evaluate his sincerity and actions to determine if you can continue to put things back together.

TheIrishGirl posted 7/9/2014 12:25 PM

I think it sounds good. Out of the fog is good. Saying he loves you is good. Wanting time together is good.

Just make sure he lets you talk about the A as needed- pretty sure no WS wants to talk about it- it's awful, it's embarrassing, it's hurtful, it's wrong and they know it- but they need to be willing to do it as much as their BS needs it. And their willingness to do so demonstrates some remorse.

funnyguy posted 7/9/2014 14:04 PM

I think it's good, but always be careful, mine WW doesn't say she loves at all. she mentioned a vacation together but thats it. I said no to the vacation.ask me to do a few other things first then maybe .

[This message edited by funnyguy at 2:05 PM, July 9th (Wednesday)]

Sunnydaysahead posted 7/9/2014 14:09 PM

Sounds like forward progress!!! I think it is wonderful he wants to spend time with you. Best of luck on your R!!!