Me: WH (49)
Most posts I have seen here have both spouses still living under the same roof, most likely for what I assume is because of children. BW and I do not have children, and I moved out at her request after DD2.
I'm hoping for reconciliation one day, but I get frustrated because I feel that I cannot accurately gauge her feelings over the phone. I feel I am fighting a losing battle by not being with her in person.
This is completely fresh for us as DD1 was only a month and a half ago, DD2 2 weeks later. But at the same time, I wish we were under the same roof talking this through every night. We still talk on the phone frequently, but I feel it would be much better in person. It seems things spin wildly out of control over the phone. I would suggest coming to the house and talking in person, but she does not want me in there at all.
To answer your question, yes I know I have a legal right to be in the house however she didn't want me there so I left. I didn't want to make the situation at the time any worse than it was.
Last night, the conversation was bad. She is almost hysterical at times, and refuses to see a doctor (for lack of sleep) or IC. She claims she is handling it on her own. I am in IC, and I feel it is going extremely well. On the flip side, this morning she called me to discuss banking matters and the conversation went well. It is such a tug of war.
My question to anyone is - have you been successful on your path to reconciliation by living separately under different roofs?
Her: BW (48)
DDay 1: June 9, 2014
DDay 2: June 23, 2014
Married: 19 Years
Currently living apart, unsure of reconciliation. In IC.