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Divorce/Separation :
Dear Wasband,

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 nowiknow23 (original poster member #33226) posted at 9:47 PM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2014

I thought you hit a low last fall when you harassed me about long-settled financial matters while my Mom was in hospice and I was on my way to sit by her deathbed. I mean, that was pretty damn low.

So now that Mom's gone and Dad is in the same palliative care boat, I was absolutely stunned to receive a blistering phone call from you, yelling at me about a debt collection phone call you received from RandomCreditor. You, of course, immediately blamed me and called demanding to know why I haven't paid them.

Really, Wasband? You couldn't check your copy of the agreement before calling me? The agreement that clearly assigned RandomCreditor to YOU? You couldn't even muster an "Oh, sorry" after I read the agreement to you?

Nope. Couldn't bother to apologize for the mistake or even acknowledge it for that matter. Just a "click" and a dead line. I guess that put me in my place. Hanging up on someone else shows just how AWESOME you are.

Too awesome for me, in fact. So why don't you hand this letter over to your wife and step back so the grown ups can speak, mkay?

Mrs. Wasband? I think the poor muffin needs a time out so he can reflect on his choices. Please emphasize to him that he should use his words next time.

Also, one last favor? Could you ask him to pretty please PAY HIS FUCKING BILLS and leave me out of it?!!! Much appreciated.

-NIK

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 10:13 PM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2014

Seriously, dude better never be near me and a folding chair.

It's amazing how a little responsibility sends douschebags scattering.

Well, at least he spared you any more of your time having to interact with him.

(This was as non-violent and non-profane as I could offer. The hurricane in my head sounds a lot different)

(((NIKelodeon)))

[This message edited by Jrazz at 4:13 PM, July 9th (Wednesday)]

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

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dmari ( member #37215) posted at 10:21 PM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2014

First of all, (((((NIK))))) and (((((NIK's dad)))))

after I read the agreement to you?

I can just imagine him slinking off with his tail between his legs! Good for him, that idiot!

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jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 10:36 PM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2014

(((Nik)))

Geez, Nik. You expect him to read and everything?

I'm sorry this is what you have to put up with.

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 nowiknow23 (original poster member #33226) posted at 11:11 PM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2014

Geez, Nik. You expect him to read and everything?

I know, I know. I really expect far too much from him.

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 11:26 PM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2014

(((nik))) I am sorry he still feels he has any right to talk to you in such a manner. You, of course, don't deserve it. 'Cause you are amazing.

So sorry about your dear father, too, nik. That is tough and sad. Peace and serenity to both you and your father.

BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson

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FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 1:27 AM on Thursday, July 10th, 2014

That guy gives me douchebumps.

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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kg201 ( member #40173) posted at 1:40 AM on Thursday, July 10th, 2014

(NIK)

FTG and his small balls.

.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=SMzXe84VoLs

Me: BH, 40
Her: Ms. Daisy
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, living together
Dday: 7/28/13
Ds17, DS12, DD12
Divorced! 2/24/2015
Apology. You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.

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Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 1:40 AM on Thursday, July 10th, 2014

Douschebumps!!!

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

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SBB ( member #35229) posted at 2:02 AM on Thursday, July 10th, 2014

Geez, Nik. You expect him to read and everything?

It's like he has VPL of the stupids. I can see his stupid from all the way over here. Put it away, dude!

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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 nowiknow23 (original poster member #33226) posted at 2:04 AM on Thursday, July 10th, 2014

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 2:06 AM on Thursday, July 10th, 2014

Whatta jagoff.

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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ruinedandbroken ( member #29250) posted at 2:14 AM on Thursday, July 10th, 2014

Complete douche.

“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 8&11
Married 14 yrs Together 21

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risingfromashes ( member #3903) posted at 2:45 AM on Thursday, July 10th, 2014

(((Nik))))

I am so sorry you have to deal with such douchebaggery bullshit now. You take care of you and your Dad. Let the Karma Bus squash his over-inflated balls.

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 2:48 AM on Thursday, July 10th, 2014

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 3:43 AM on Thursday, July 10th, 2014

(((NIK and Dad))) He just HAS to involve you, doesn't he? And his timing is perfectly calculated. I agree with others, but 'douche' is almost a complement to him and a slam to all preexisting douches to put him in their class.

Hey, at least it didn't cost you anything. Xpos and his L prefer to sue me for such things (covered in the D decree). They have collaborated on it twice now and both times just to have the judge tell them what the decree said, which was exactly what my L responded to their papers. But he did promise me that he would make it cost me as much as he possibly could. Nice to know that he CAN keep a promise!

Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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StillLivin ( member #40229) posted at 7:02 AM on Thursday, July 10th, 2014

Also, one last favor? Could you ask him to pretty please PAY HIS FUCKING BILLS and leave me out of it?!!! Much appreciated

(((NIK))) Sorry to hear about your father. I hope he rally's and comes back to full health.

As for douchebag, personally I would have told him to "fuck off and read the damn D agreement papers before harassing me further!"

I bow down to your saintly patience and decorum!

"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014

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TheGivingTree ( member #43672) posted at 12:06 PM on Thursday, July 10th, 2014

Ugh, what a jerk! Any way that you can either block his calls, or let them go to voicemail so you don't have to deal with his stupid?

Me: FBW, 50. Him: SAFWH, 59
3 fantastic kids: DS 18, DS 17, DD 12
DDay 1: 1/8/13, multiple DDays with TT for an entire year.

Working hard at R. No, strike that. I give up. We're heading for D.
If all you wanted was love, why would you use

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 nowiknow23 (original poster member #33226) posted at 3:11 PM on Thursday, July 10th, 2014

He usually is sent to voice mail. We are working on some last minute schedule changes with DD (due to my Dad's state), so there have been several phone calls back and forth over the last few days to arrange coverage for her doctor and therapy appointments.

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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damncutekitty ( member #5929) posted at 3:20 PM on Thursday, July 10th, 2014

For the last 2 years of our marriage my XH racked up massive credit card debts without my knowledge. (I thought we were paying them down). He agreed to a 60/40 split at the D but that was the most he would take of our "marital debt". Ugh.

I struggled financially after the D and fell behind on CC payments. When the creditors started calling HIM (still don't know why, I took his name off all my cards) he tried to yell at me and I was just like, whatever dude you did this to me. I have to admit I got a sick little thrill knowing he was being harrassed by creditors. LOL

12/18/15 found out my now EX boyfriend was trolling CL for underage girls. From the cops. The fun never stops.

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