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User Topic: Vacation after Dday
♀ 43805
Member # 43805
Default  Posted: 3:55 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am 3 weeks post Dday and already had a vacation planned with my two children and my best friend July 20-25 in Florida. Should I now change that so I can stay and work on Marriage? Or continue with my plans? Will I harm anything either way?

[This message edited by soccermom9 at 6:15 PM, July 9th (Wednesday)]

Me: 44
WH: 43
Dday: 6-20-14
He admitted to drunken sex at massage parlor!
Attempting reconciliation

Posts: 73 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: Kentucky
♀ 34262
Member # 34262
Default  Posted: 4:53 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I assume you mean July and not June,

I went ahead and took a trip the week after d-day and took they opportunity to engage the 180. One day out and fWS was calling begging me to give her another chance.

Me: BS 45
Her: FWS 47 (both family med MDs)
OW: 40s (PhD)
Dday: 10/11: 11/11 TT for months; NC 8/12
I NEVER mind medical PMs; I became a doctor to serve others. Period.

Posts: 2525 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Here
♂ 41920
Member # 41920
Default  Posted: 4:56 PM, July 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Need to answer some questions:

* Can you trust him while you're gone? Or will you just worry?
* Would some time apart help relax you?
* Are you getting traction on your R, or just spinning your wheels?
* What will he be doing?
* Can you stay in communication? Can you work on the M while you're apart?
* Would a change of plans be hard on the kids?
* What would you rather do (go or stay)?

Me: BH 48 - STBXWW 47 - M 19 years
DS15 - DS11
DD#1: 12/24/2013
False R
DD#2: 4/15/2014
TT 4/23, 4/24, 5/31, 7/19

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Posts: 1116 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: California
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