You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
IDK. I wouldn't get too cheesed about this. There are lots of sports bars, etc that bill themselves as restaurants, do have varying degrees of palatable food, and trivia isn't such a bad diversion.
I grew up in a bar. A neighbor shot & beer dive. I survived and thrived. DS has been in bars since he was a baby. His grandfather's and where the X worked. That was REALLY a dive, your basic bucket of blood, but only during the daytime.
You need to pick your battles carefully, otherwise life will he impossible.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011