Quick background, wife was wayward. Multiple partners even after being caught. Three kids together. Its been 5.5 years since the last d-day. We went our own ways and she's been with multiple people, one who cheated on her (which sadly I kinda smiled with karma on that one, I'm really not a horrible person.) And she just got out of a 3 year long relationship. No relationships for me in this time (I don't know maybe I am to scared to look for one?) Weve maintained a friendly status together.
Either way, about a month ago she was here visiting (we live about 400 miles apart) with the girls (our kids) and she got very sick. She wouldn't let me leave her side and I stuck by her. She was still in this relationship with another guy.
Well we visited two different hospitals together and I basically was her bed nurse the week and a half she was down. During this time she confessed she still loved me and I told her I refuse to talk to her about anything like this while she was with another man in the relationship. Well about a week after she went back she broke up with him and he destroyed her house and some of the things inside as well...blah blah blah. She calls me every night and was just here over the 4th of July weekend again. Nothing happened and we didn't talk much but she wants to move over here and wants us to move in together. The kids think we are getting back together and she talks openly about this stuff with her family. When she talks to me she never asks me anything, like how was my day or what did you have for dinner, what are you doing this weekend? Its always about her and what's going on good or bad. And my head is fucking spinning like wtf is going on? I would not mind trying again we had 16 years together but I would want to take it slow and reasonable. I have honestly tried slipping back into a no contact rule but it makes her call/text more. Or she takes the phone from one of my girls when were talking and tells them its her turn. And honestly I don't know if she truly loves me or if she just needs a filler...
However I've noticed if I do play along and get very interested she shuts down and it leaves me scratching my head even more. Sometimes I wonder if she has some kind of personality disorder. I don't know what to do I don't feel trapped but I feel like something is moving to quick but I don't know what that something is. I also couldn't even tell you honestly if she had a "better option" if shed suddenly drop me. She agrees to everything I ask so it's when I come forward and out of my shell and she clams up that I get confused...wtf should I think?