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Alex CR (original poster member #27968) posted at 9:43 AM on Thursday, July 10th, 2014
Has anyone read this book? The title, IMO, doesn't fit the read and it's not something I would normally pick up, but I heard the author interviewed on a radio show last month. She stated there were many stories describing how marriages are destroyed by infidelity and said she decided to write one showing how a marriage could come back from infidelity. She writes it from the WS's perspective.
It is certainly not a book I could've read four years ago or even two without hurting, but I was able to read it without pain this week.
Would love to hear your thoughts if anyone's had a chance to read it.
BS Me 63
WS Him 64
Married 35
Together 41
DD 11/16/09
I can dwell in the negative or seek the positive...one road is lonely...the other teeming with life.
TheGivingTree ( member #43672) posted at 12:27 AM on Tuesday, August 5th, 2014
Just heard about this book today from Real Simple magazine. My gut reaction was "you've got to be kidding me. Am I EVER going to get away from having affairs thrown in my face!" That having been said, the reviewer made it sound like a good book. Just not one I could read now, or maybe ever.
Me: FBW, 50. Him: SAFWH, 59
3 fantastic kids: DS 18, DS 17, DD 12
DDay 1: 1/8/13, multiple DDays with TT for an entire year.
Working hard at R. No, strike that. I give up. We're heading for D.
If all you wanted was love, why would you use
childofcheater ( member #33887) posted at 1:16 AM on Tuesday, August 5th, 2014
I read it. I'm still not sure how I feel about it. They're were times I wanted to scream at the husband. It was a little triggery for me. Overall I liked it I think. I couldn't stop once I started and read it all in one night.
Me: 42 yo, him 41Married 19 years together 233 kids: DD15, DD12, DS9DDay 2/9/12 found suspicious text to coworkerStatus: in R, work in progress
Alex CR (original poster member #27968) posted at 12:48 AM on Monday, August 11th, 2014
(((TheGivingTree))) No way could I have read this book two or even three years out....and normally I avoid these kinds of books since Dday.
But the review and the author sounded so upbeat and interesting, I thought I'd give it a try.
childofcheater - I don't know if I liked it either. I think the title was misleading and really, I felt the couple were dealing in the present with the infidelity, not how they came through it, kwim?
For the first few years after Dday, I couldn't find the concentration to read at all and I have been an avid reader all my life so I'm really enjoying the ability to read is back. I'm reading so many different types of books now, but just not sure this one warrants the good reviews or the description the author is providing in her interviews.
BS Me 63
WS Him 64
Married 35
Together 41
DD 11/16/09
I can dwell in the negative or seek the positive...one road is lonely...the other teeming with life.
GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 3:43 PM on Monday, September 8th, 2014
I finally had a chance to read this.
I wanted to backhand the WH throughout MOST of the book. In my opinion, he never really "got it". From start to finish it was all about HIM and how HE felt and how things were in HIS world.
That said, it was an enjoyable book (though I agree it would be very triggery for someone less further out from DDay).
Good read!
Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
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