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♀ 36126
Member # 36126
Default  Posted: 6:13 AM, July 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do some of you feel like something is wrong with you for your ex to have left?

I am told to let it go and I do but when I feel the possibility of a future I feel this is my subconscious speaking and I don't know if my relationship can work.

Someone said my SO will eventually leave which I don't want because of this thought but if what the person says is true how do I let that small voice go that says eventually he will discover me and leave too?

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♀ 42092
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Default  Posted: 5:25 PM, July 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Whoever told you that about your SO sounds pretty toxic. I know it's hard but try not to let it get to you.


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4324 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
♀ 28622
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Default  Posted: 4:35 PM, July 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can you name the qualities that YOU really like about yourself? What are you good at? What kind of friend are you?

Now. Why wouldn't someone be happy to partner with that?

Trust your SO. He chose you, chooses to remain with you. Unless he is a martyr or into self punishment, you must have some positive qualities that he finds worth the effort.

Shut down that voice that has negative projections in it.

Me: 45, independent, happy, despite parallel parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 15 DS 12
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 7052 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
♀ 36126
Member # 36126
Default  Posted: 7:14 AM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for the advice. I will try - it is hard when things go well in a blink you realize someone like the OW or maybe it is something else can take it all away.

I am going to make a stronger effort to let it go.

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