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Newest Member: MrBrightside (49932)

User Topic: Ugh, delays...
Member # 39166
Default  Posted: 1:20 PM, July 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

UK system is a bit complicated. I have to apply for a decree nisi (which is the judge saying there's no legal problem with divorcing), then wait at least 6 weeks & 1 day before applying for the decree absolute (final divorce decree)...which shouldn't be applied for until the financial stuff is all agreed.

I thought my solicitor had filed for the decree nisi. It normally takes 4-6 week just to get a court date for the judge to declare the decree nisi, the actual court date tends to be another 3-4 weeks after a total of 2 months is about average.

Unfortunately, my solicitor asked for a letter to be sent to me, that I had to sign. I didn't know this, she went on holiday, the holiday cover solicitor didn't check guessed it, it didn't get sent. I only found out today, a month later. My solicitor had thought I was just taking my time replying.


I can't get down to her tomorrow, so she's going to post it. So, now it's going to be at least mid Sept before the decree nisi is granted. And even if all financial mediation goes well, no delays etc, it's going to be at least Nov until I get the decree absolute and am finally free.

Me: BW
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' - Unremorseful passive aggressive blameshifter. CL, AFF, EA's & at least 1 PA. Dday Aug 2012. He walked out April 2013, wanting D, now stalling

ds5, ds7

Took a while, but I like the me I am, without him

Posts: 1569 | Registered: May 2013 | From: UK
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 3:25 PM, July 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That would really tick me off!

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!

Posts: 10722 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
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Member # 40306
Default  Posted: 8:39 PM, July 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh. I hate crap like that. I'm sorry.

Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 2014, 1 yr. later than I should have
Psalms 27:14 Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

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