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sunny58 posted 7/10/2014 13:46 PM

We had agreed that we were going to try and have an amiable divorce. Our kids are grown and we would live in the same house until everything was final and he would help me fix up things so we can sell the house.

It’s been a few weeks since I served him the divorce papers and I’ve been anxious. I asked him two weeks ago when he would sign papers and he said: I thought everything was going well between us and I thought you would change your mind. I said No. I’m just being nice and it’s less stressful to be cordial than hateful. I don’t talk about the A. So he said he would look papers over again and sign next week.

The days were beginning to turn in weeks and I didn’t want to bring it up again but I did. Same response so I just had to burst his bubble and come out and tell him that I wanted out. He wants to reconcile and I do not. Period. We wanted to save on attorney’s fees so I just filed. Now he wanted to talk to my attorney and ask a few questions so I called today to set up an appointment.

Found out from paralegal that WH had called office a few weeks ago telling her that we were in MC and are on the road to R. I told her NO that I wanted to make appointment to meet with attorney so he can answer a few questions and WH promised to sign papers on spot.

WH is a control freak. Since I’m now in control he is having a hard time. He’s got a lot of nerve and he still wants me to trust him. He found out too late how good life was for him (I did everything) and now he has regrets about A. Tough luck!

There is an old saying that apply to him now. "You don't know what you got until it's gone.”

Schadenfreude posted 7/10/2014 14:01 PM

I am an attorney, and from time to time I'd get calls from opposite party in divorce case when not represented by another attorney.

The only proper response to such a call would be: "I need to hear this from MY client, not you." You may wish to ask what happened here. That office should not have accepted what he said at face value.

Too bad for STBXWH. I guess his fantasy world cruise just ended.

I know your story pretty well. You KNOW he is a con man. He probably tried a con job on your lawyer. I suspect it didn't work, but he won't stop with attempted con jobs on you and anyone else. He sure had OW conned, didn't he?

Kajem posted 7/11/2014 05:35 AM

Why is YOUR attorney listening to what he's saying?

I'd set that attorney straight.