DDay Dec. 17, 2010
I haven't posted a topic in a really long time. And I feel rather stupid putting this out there but, I know SI'ers are the best and most honest!
A little background, XWH and I have been divorced 2.5 years now. We met as kids and I never really dated anyone else to speak of (as an adult anyway) We were married 32 years when he left for OW.
I met my BF a year ago this month and it's going ok but this is where my confusion is. We live about 1 hour and 20 min from each other so we talk on the phone every day but see each other once a week to week and a half. We are both in our 50's and I don't have kids and his are grown and out of the house and both of us have jobs that start early in the morning and he works one day of the weekend.
My question to others is if you've been dating this long how do you spend your time together? I don't know what a relationship looks like. All I can base it on is when I was married.
We go to the Theatre once every couple of months, mostly out to eat (I would drag him on walks but my back is so bad now I just can't) He's not really an outdoors type.
Another challenge is I have an unfriendly dog so if I stay at his place I only have so many hours and I have to get home. My BF is not a dog person so he doesn't like staying at my place. (my dog is unpredictable so I have to keep him separated from us). I get that my dog makes it uncomfortable to hang out at my place. Sometimes the evening feels like a booty call and I don't like that.
Next week is my b-day and he said we'll do what ever I want...I feel so uncreative when it comes to thinking of things to do. I'm learning. Sigh
Me BS 57
Him WH 58
M 32 yrs - together 40 yrs
D-Day 12-18-11 (WH didn't want to R)
Divorced 6-21-12 Done!
If the grass is greener on the other side....water your own lawn.