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Harriet posted 7/10/2014 20:43 PM

Recently, I was told that my ex's OW wanted to go to my kids' events with my ex. He refused to let her. He said that he was a crappy husband, so the least he could do is try to be a good ex-husband. He insisted, "I won't do that to Harriet."

He was a truly crappy husband. And I think he tries to be a decent ex, although he misses the mark a lot. Not sure how to feel about that. Thankful? Not really. I guess I just hope he keeps it up - he would like us to be friends but that's not going to happen.

Too little too late, I suppose is what sums it up.

nekorb posted 7/10/2014 20:47 PM

I guess I'd be thankful I don't have to see OW at my kids' stuff, but wouldn't get all soft feeling about your ex. He SHOULD be doing it (being a good ex).

The utility company doesn't call you to sing your praises everytime you pay a bill on time, do they? No - because that's what you are supposed to be doing.

Gemini71 posted 7/10/2014 21:04 PM

I agree with nekorb. Your Ex is just doing what he's supposed to do. They are his kids, not hers. She is nothing to them. The kids' events are for the kids.

Honestly, this is probably more about your ex and he's just using you as an excuse. OW is probably pushing to formalize her relationship with your Ex. "Why don't you introduce me to the kids? Why don't I go to family/kid events with you? Blah blah blah." It's easier to say, "Oh I couldn't do that to Harriet" than it is to say "I'm not ready to take that step with you."

persevere posted 7/10/2014 21:33 PM

After the craziness I dealt with in how self-absorbed my XWH has been the past three years, I think it's actually almost, somewhat decent that he'd say that. Does it make up for the rest of the damage? Hell no....but if he sticks to it good for him. Though sadly, most WS' don't follow thru on much that seems even slightly positive.

My XWH too recently thought we could be friends - thought we should "get together to catch up" I told him that we are not friends - my friends don't treat me the way he has, and left it at that. Haven't heard from him since.

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