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She11ybeanz (original poster member #27457) posted at 3:33 PM on Friday, July 11th, 2014
"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
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D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
allusions ( member #25376) posted at 5:49 PM on Friday, July 11th, 2014
It sounds like she needs to be desensitized to insects and other little critters. Maybe show her a "friendly bug" crawling on your hand as you laugh and say how it tickles and how cute it is. Something that won't fly away--a sow bug/pillbug/roly poly or some other equally cute and benign insect.
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She11ybeanz (original poster member #27457) posted at 6:56 PM on Friday, July 11th, 2014
I'm actually taking her to a Butterfly Release tonight at our local museum but am a little nervous now after this "incident' occurred. Not sure how she will do....
"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
gahurts ( member #33699) posted at 7:27 PM on Friday, July 11th, 2014
Be prepared that she thinks the butterflies are beautiful until they get released and then freaks out. My DD (now 11) was probably 3 when we first went to a butterfly hatchery and she loves butterflies until she saw one land on her and then she had a melt down.
I think the lightning bug might be foreshadowing.
Have fun tonight anyway
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie
She11ybeanz (original poster member #27457) posted at 7:29 PM on Friday, July 11th, 2014
"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 9:04 PM on Friday, July 11th, 2014
You can prepare her.
Build up the beauty of butterflies. Tell her how they are really shy and how you should be quiet so as not to scare them. Make her believe that if one lands on her that they must be tired and feel safe and she should be proud to be choosen.
It is a sad thing about the lightning bug as those are really cool bugs. My kids loved when the backyard would be full of them.
solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 2:36 PM on Saturday, July 12th, 2014
When you first posted about the butterfly release, my first thought was of my then-toddler daughter's response the first time we visited the butterfly exhibit at the museum (not favorable, but very funny--and resulting in no permanent emotional scarring, as near as I can tell).
I hope you had a good time
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
She11ybeanz (original poster member #27457) posted at 2:18 AM on Sunday, July 13th, 2014
She did really good even though she did swat at a few butterflies. I was able to monitor her and protect them from babyzilla....
"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
dameia ( member #36072) posted at 4:21 AM on Monday, July 14th, 2014
I'm glad the butterfly release went relatively well.
DS3 is scared of bugs. He did like it when I caught a lightning bug though, and he even tried to hold it! His fears center around spiders, ants, and ladybugs. Spiders are understandable, but why ants and ladybugs you wonder? Because the kids in the neighborhood (including his brother and sister) told him that ants and ladybugs like to eat little boys.
But we're working on that...
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