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threeofus posted 7/11/2014 13:14 PM

I joined SI when I was married and found out I was cheated on. SI was a great resource. I have since divorced and began dating again. I am back here now because I found out the person I was dating cheated on me. Is SI only for married folks?

nowiknow23 posted 7/11/2014 13:18 PM

SI is for anyone dealing with betrayal, married or not.

So sorry you have reason to be back, but we are here for you, honey. ((((hugs))))

MovingUpward posted 7/11/2014 13:18 PM

What NIK said.

We are here to help and very sorry that you're dealing with this crap again.


gahurts posted 7/11/2014 13:19 PM

SI is for anyone who has had to deal with the pain of infidelity - whether having been betrayed or have betrayed another, have stopped and are looking for healing.

Sorry you had to come back and I hope you can find support and healing here again.

[This message edited by gahurts at 1:20 PM, July 11th (Friday)]

threeofus posted 7/11/2014 13:41 PM

Thanks everyone for responding. I really appreciate this. I am glad that SI is here! SI helped me heal before. I am sure SI will help me heal again!!!

Since I have divorced in May of 2010, I dated three people that I got close. (I was over my ex husband and happy to be divorced.) The first person was a childhood friend. We dated for about 3 months. I ended it because he suddenly became distant. I was hurt, but moved on pretty fast. Found out months later that he cheated. I was not bothered too much.

Decided to to try again and began dating someone in May of 2011. Dated that same person for three years and found out that he was cheating just last weekend. Feel like I am re-living my past. I worked so hard to build a healthy relationship. I worked on myself too. I went to counseling and got in touch with myself and grew by leaps and bounds. Now, I am at ground zero again.

[This message edited by threeofus at 1:56 PM, July 11th (Friday)]

seethelight posted 7/11/2014 14:34 PM


Sorry to hear about your latest relationship.

The good news is that it's better that you learned he had those inclinations before you two married.

threeofus posted 7/11/2014 14:45 PM

@ Seethelight Thanks -- The good thing is I am no longer in the dark! It is better to know the truth........

[This message edited by threeofus at 2:46 PM, July 11th (Friday)]

Kajem posted 7/11/2014 19:31 PM

Thereof us,

I found SI after my XSO cheated. We were together 8 years. I met him after my XH cheated and divorced (2003). I didn't find SI then.

Stick around. 😊.

5454real posted 7/11/2014 19:37 PM


I am so sorry you are back. I am asking this from a position of having 5 different SO's cheat on me, so I'm not judging. Please understand, you bear NO responsibility for their decision to cheat, but why are you picking SO's with a propensity to cheat?


jo2love posted 7/11/2014 20:25 PM


I'm so sorry you are going through this pain again. Vent, lean on us, and know we are here for you. Sending you strength.

Ostrich80 posted 7/12/2014 00:51 AM

I'm sorry it happened again. Just a reminder to myself that even when I D, I will still be susceptible to infidelity if to have a R. Gosh that just sucks. Makes me want to be a single crazy dog lady. (Prefer dogs over cats)

threeofus posted 7/21/2014 19:30 PM

Again, thanks everyone for all of the support. I really appreciate it.

@5454Real - Good question and definitely something to think about.

For those who have been betrayed by different people have any ideas why it happened????

gonnabe2016 posted 7/21/2014 20:59 PM

For those who have been betrayed by different people have any ideas why it happened????

Your *picker's* broken?

Kajem posted 7/21/2014 21:52 PM

^^^^^ I agree with Gonna. My picker is broken. After XH (2003) it was fixed but with glue and rubberbands. After XSO I want the darn thing replaced! Or at least new components installed like boundaries, listening to my gut instincts, paying attention to red flags, etc..,

I'm healing, I'm working on my internal issues. Healing them, I hope, will put me on the radar of healthier people.


threeofus posted 7/22/2014 05:39 AM

My radar was up high.....real high. I saw red flags, but was not certain of them. Since I had been cheated on before, I did not want to be accused of bringing old stuff in new relationship. The flags were not strong at all. So, I did not give them too much value. I second guessed my gut. My ex bf was a better cheater than the first one. They all some point though. Whatever is done in the dark always comes to light. I will continue to think deeply about other answers.

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