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Numb2014 posted 7/12/2014 10:05 AM

My ds is my stepson. He stays with us every summer. He told me last night that he wouldn't be sad if me and his dad separated. For obvious reasons that stung. So I asked him why he thought we are separating. He's 14. He's not dumb. I know that he can sense things. But I was trying to talk to him without exposing his father.

He told me that every other time that he was here, me and his dad were more of a couple. This time around, not so much. He stated that his dad seems to just nit pick at me for everything and he didn't understand why. He said that I deserved better and that that's why he wouldn't be sad if we separated.

He said he couldn't picture me with another man. He could picture his dad with another woman before he pictured me with another man.

I told him not to worry about his dad and I things aren't easy in any relationship, and if we separate, ds will ALWAYS be my son. Not my stepson. My son. He told me regardless, he would stay in contact with me and would come visit me still too.

It was heartbreaking. Ow bitch will be at the airport greeting ds every Christmas and summer now. I've beeb stepmom to ds his whole life. Been with his father since he was 7 months (no infidelity, xh had a kid in high school and mom and him were long broken up before I came in to the picture, in case anyone wondered).

He sees how his father treated me differently this time around. I imagine when he flies out in dec and dad is living with another woman, he will put two and two together.

I didn't tell him bc xh wants to wait until he leaves. He says "I don't want to ruin his vacation" just, he leaves every single night to be with OW. Ds came out here to see his dad too.

Fucking asshole. I'm left at home every weekend and every night with the kids. Ds knows too, that I will ALWAYS be there for him.

[This message edited by Numb2014 at 10:08 AM, July 12th (Saturday)]

norabird posted 7/12/2014 14:01 PM


He is lucky to have you. Hold on to your relationship with him and be glad that he sees what is really going on. I'm sorry that this is happening but you and he will both survive.

sparkysable posted 7/12/2014 16:03 PM

Won't he be upset when he finds out you kept it from him?

manticore posted 7/12/2014 20:41 PM

you are an admirable woman, your son is right you deserve better, let see how it plays for OW when your son (stepson) finds, loyalties are not born from the wishes of the parents but for the the bonds formed in life.

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