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aero1122 posted 7/12/2014 22:16 PM

In the morning I am dropping our son off for camp for the week. The ow son will be there as well and I am so nervous about running into her. I dont know how I will react to seeing her and dont want to lose it in front of my son (who doesn't know what is going on)
To make it worse my WH is away with the military so I dont have him here with me physically.

I am stressing really badly here.

badmedicine posted 7/12/2014 22:47 PM

This is one of my biggest fears so I understand the dread!! Just try to focus on your son and saying goodbye and then walk proudly back to the car. You are strong and you can do this. SHE should be ashamed and embarrassed. You have no reason to hide. Good luck!!

plainpain posted 7/12/2014 22:56 PM

((Aero))

You have nothing to be embarrassed about - hold your head high. Smile. I would not be surprised if she is feeling the same way, and maybe she will have someone else drop off her child.

Sunnydaysahead posted 7/12/2014 23:12 PM

You will do great tomorrow! Seeing the OW is Never fun. Hold your head up, give your son lots of love and ignore the OW. She is nothing to you and does not deserve your notice (I know, easier said than done).

Stay strong, you can do this!!

BrokenheartedUK posted 7/13/2014 06:05 AM

I don't know what I would do either. Spend some time imagining the best and the worst scenarios and really draw them out. You do not want to flip out--I'm sure I would be really tempted so I get that. You want to maintain control, especially in front of your child so walk through it in your head a few times to get comfortable with the idea.

Good luck. Hugs.

Hatemyhusband posted 7/13/2014 13:37 PM

Smile at her. Keep smiling. Say nothing. It will eat at her and kill her to see u happy.
She will expect u to flip. Do the opposite. I always do opposite of the expected. Screws with minds more. Xo

aero1122 posted 7/13/2014 14:54 PM

I survived it!

Saw her and walked right past her with a big smile. She turned and walked away with her head down.

It took all of me to not punch her in her face but it was better for me to know i am the bigger and better person.

That was rough but another victory for me.

Sunnydaysahead posted 7/13/2014 15:47 PM

Good for you!!!! You handled the situation with class, that is the best revenge ever. Happy for your victory!!

NeverAgain2013 posted 7/13/2014 16:55 PM

I remember one time I had to walk past the OW.

I actually looked at her laughed, like she was such a freakin' joke that I couldn't help but laugh at the sight of her.

Good times....good times.

badmedicine posted 7/13/2014 17:02 PM

Way to go!!! Glad you made it through and felt strong. You are.

littleflower posted 7/13/2014 17:05 PM

aero1122

Good on you !

I hope I can show as much class as you when I end up in the same situation

AML04 posted 7/13/2014 20:59 PM

Way to go!!!! Be proud of yourself!!

bionicgal posted 7/13/2014 21:53 PM

Hmm. Glad it went ok.
I mostly pretend she is invisible. Not sure why I would smile at her?

Jrazz posted 7/13/2014 22:24 PM

You GO, aero!

That big smile was sure to tell her that she's not even a blip on your radar.

I'm so glad you got through it.