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User Topic: Caught My Husband
GabyBaby
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Member # 26928
Default  Posted: 10:53 PM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was on his phone (which has been attached to his hip). Saw emails dating back to 2012 that he was sending to ads on Craigslist for blowjobs, pics, and oral.
According to him he never met with anyone, but the tone and content of the emails show that he's been trying for all he's worth, so I don't buy that shit at all.

I'm sorry to say I lost my shit and beat the crap out of him. Hope he has fun explaining his black eye to his brother at work tomorrow. Asshole.


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Done

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity/typos.


Posts: 6749 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
lieshurt
♀ 14003
Member # 14003
Default  Posted: 10:55 PM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh Gaby, I'm so sorry hun. We are here for you.(((Gaby)))

No more hitting though. You already know that isn't right and you don't want to get into trouble legally.

[This message edited by lieshurt at 10:57 PM, July 12th (Saturday)]


A relationship without trust is like a car without gas. You can stay in it all you want, but it won't go anywhere.

Posts: 13881 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Houston
GabyBaby
♀ 26928
Member # 26928
Default  Posted: 11:08 PM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am such a fucking idiot.

We haven't slept together in over a year. He's been having problems with his AD meds (or so I thought), so although I spoke up about it on multiple occasions, I didn't push very hard.

He lost his job back in 2012 (when he seems to have started his new "hobby") so he had lots of time on his hands.

He's in school full time and working part time with his brother. In other words, I am supporting his ass and he's out fucking me over.
Oh my freaking god I want to kill right now.

We have been living paycheck to paycheck (or worse) for over two years. I've been trying to hold it together (financially) while he finishes school and this is the thanks I get.
Fuck. You.

Seriously. Get the fucking picks you've been sending to your sluts and shove your own dick up your ass. Especially the one with the red bow tied around it. Wrap that shit up and shove it up your ass.


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Done

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity/typos.


Posts: 6749 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
GabyBaby
♀ 26928
Member # 26928
Default  Posted: 11:18 PM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He was taking a nap when I found the first set of pic that he sent.

I woke him up and held up his phone. His response to my, "What the fuck is this?" was to say "I was going to send those to you.".

Really? We haven't touched each other sexually in over a year and all of a sudden you're "about" to send me pics of your dick? I slapped him and he recanted that story and started talking.

I've got the email account under my own password as well as his TWO adultfriendfinder accounts.

He's supposedly signed up here and getting his shit straight. We'll see. Right now I really don't give a fuck. I can't decide if I'm more pissed off or hurt or just fucking DONE with all the bullshit over the last few years.

I'm so sick of his bad decisions piling shit onto MY life. I'm fucking DONE.


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Done

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity/typos.


Posts: 6749 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
Dark Inertia
30727
Member # 30727
Default  Posted: 11:23 PM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Gaby, I am so sorry! :( You are one of my favorite posters and it breaks my heart that this is happening to you all over again. I don't need to tell you to stay strong, I KNOW you will. I am just at a loss for words. :(


"If I listened earlier, I wouldn't be here. But that's just the trouble with me. I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it."

Posts: 1371 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: The Ohio
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 11:27 PM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I am beyond shocked and horrified for you, Gaby. After EVERYTHING you have been through.

Obviously we're going to have to talk about the hitting - hopefully we can keep that to another thread. For tonight, I am just so brokenhearted for you. He was supposed to be "the good guy."

Fucking dammit.


(((GabyBaby)))


"Welcome the rawness of vulnerability as an opportunity to open." - Pema Chodron

Me: BW 35
Crazz: WH 33
Daughter: 4.5 Going on 16


Posts: 18703 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
GabyBaby
♀ 26928
Member # 26928
Default  Posted: 11:35 PM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you all for the hugs.
The rage is calming down (and my hand hurts) so no more hitting. (I am not apologizing to that fucking ass though).

I have no idea what to do now. None.
I did it all wrong the first time. I don't know if I can deal with this again.

@Jrazz - yeah...I thought he was one of the good guys too. Guess who the sucker is.


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Done

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity/typos.


Posts: 6749 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
MovingUpward
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Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 11:38 PM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Gaby)))


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 53339 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
LosferWords
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Member # 30369
Default  Posted: 11:49 PM, July 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Gaby)))

I'm so sorry to hear this.

[This message edited by LosferWords at 11:50 PM, July 12th (Saturday)]


There will come a time, you'll see, with no more tears. And love will not break your heart, but dismiss your fears.

Posts: 8296 | Registered: Dec 2010
Jpapageorge
♂ 31800
Member # 31800
Default  Posted: 12:04 AM, July 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hang in there Gaby.


"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF

Posts: 1764 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: California
Flourgirl
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Member # 40937
Default  Posted: 1:58 AM, July 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(GabyBaby) I'm so sorry. Do not call yourself a sucker. Be kind to yourself. He is the broken one. He is he sucker for not realizing and appreciating what he has at home.


BS me 39
WH him 40
Dd 7/1/13. TT 7/22/13
SAHM with 4 wonderful kids

Posts: 190 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Kansas City
Ostrich80
34827
Member # 34827
Default  Posted: 3:04 AM, July 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh Gaby I'm so very sorry. I don't know what to say, it just sucks so bad. Wtf is wrong with him


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5279 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 6:44 AM, July 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Damn, Gaby. WTH??? I'm so SO sorry. And absolutely furious on your behalf. ((((((GabyBaby))))))

We're here for you.


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


Posts: 26546 | Registered: Aug 2011
suckstobeme
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Member # 30853
Default  Posted: 6:49 AM, July 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had to read the name on the original post five times before I was convinced it was really Gaby. I'm so sorry this is all happening again. I have no solid words of advice, except that you will get through it and we are all here to see to that.


BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.

Posts: 2912 | Registered: Jan 2011
NeverAgain2013
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Member # 38121
Default  Posted: 7:05 AM, July 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awww Gaby, it's not your job in this life to continually excuse or forgive the crap behavior of selfish, self-entitled assholes, one after the after.

Unfortunately, it would appear you got another lemon.

Use your strength and experience from the last time you dealt with this to help guide you and make your decisions.

It honestly sounds as though you'd be a lot better on your own. Why carry this albatross financially and emotionally when he can't even show you any respect?

Good luck to you.


Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.

Posts: 1958 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: USA
Roxane
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Member # 43922
Default  Posted: 7:38 AM, July 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I caught my husband...

Still so shocking...I still can not believe this is happening. This is the second time I found pic of women and text messages to whores to set up meeting times. It has only been a month. He's been living in a hotel since I threw him out. Tonight he moves back in. I'm terrified and I have no idea if I can pick up the pieces of my broken heart.

So thankful for finding this safe place to "talk" to others who have suffered this. It's completely overwhelming. He's in therapy 3x week. He says he will do anything to save his family. I hope this is true. It's going to be a long long road...


Posts: 1 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: Il
DixieD
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Member # 33457
Default  Posted: 9:05 AM, July 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Gaby, I'm so sorry. You deserve so much better than any of this.

((((Gaby)))))


Growing forward

Posts: 1767 | Registered: Sep 2011
PurpleRose
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Member # 33129
Default  Posted: 9:10 AM, July 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh Gaby, I'm so sorry.

Do you have a plan? Are you eating?

It just sucks.


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3631 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 9:13 AM, July 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending strength and (((hugs)))

I'm so sorry to hear this Gaby.

If you feel the need to hit anything take it out on a pillow.


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
cantaccept
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Default  Posted: 9:25 AM, July 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

GabyBaby,

I am so sorry. I have a special soft spot for others that have to deal with multiple ddays.

You will get through this, you are strong. You already know this but I know it still hurts.

You are not a sucker or a fool. You are a wonderful, forgiving, and loving woman.

Right now though, try to give most of your love to yourself. You don't need to know what to do right now. That helped me to calm my mind, I would just tell myself when I felt overwhelmed by what do I do??? I don't have to do anything right now and that is my decision for right now.

I hope you can have a little peace today. I hope you can get some sleep and eat something, also don't forget to drink, water that is.

I didn't do very well with the basics after dday 2, it is as if you forget. I am having some issues now because of that. Nothing awful but lots of hair loss and that does not help with the self esteem side of things. Stress and poor eating. Try to take care of yourself.

I will be thinking of you today.


"So often times it happens, that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key"

I would now like to be known as Can!

dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh boots5050
attempted R, it was all a lie

Divorced!


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