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HurtingandLost posted 7/12/2014 23:41 PM

A little over a week ago I we had the blow up and I filled out the paperwork to file for divorce. On the 10th, she tries to start an argument which I ignored until she said "its been 7 years and I'm sick of the fact that you brought it up last weekend". Three parts of irony with this. First, it was 4 years to the day (Jul 10 2010). Second, I hadn't brought it up in a few years, other than to mention she wasn't living up to promises of R. Third, she's some kind of special. I already feel sorry for the next poor bastard.

Jrazz posted 7/12/2014 23:47 PM

(((H&L)))

Sounds like this is a move that is long overdue. Hoping for peace for you. Going by the way she seems to rationalize things, it sounds like you need the space. Sending strength.

Badhurt posted 7/13/2014 10:36 AM

Without knowing what she is not doing, which is obvious to you, you need to file. She has blame shifted to you and doesn't even want to remember anything.
Give her some consequences. It might not her memory of what she committed to when you agreed to give her another chamce

brokeninfl posted 7/13/2014 11:02 AM

I'm so sorry Hurting.

You know you've done the right thing. Four years is a long time to wait for true reconciliation. I know that it is hard, but sometimes letting go is the only path to peace.

Uhtred posted 7/13/2014 13:48 PM

Damn man you've done what most wouldn't and 4 years is a long time. You can definitely walk away with your held high because you gave your marriage a chance. Now it's in to bigger and better things brother. Best of luck to you.

Scammed posted 7/13/2014 18:04 PM

Hurting,

I have a WW who has refused to own up to her VLTA. A divorce would cause our kids a lot of pain, but she is solely responsible for the actions that destroyed this marriage. I intend to visit a divorce lawyer, soon.

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