This Topic is Archived
crazyblindsided (original poster member #35215) posted at 11:16 AM on Monday, July 14th, 2014
I just had my final Dday 3 days ago and will not be in R. I will be moving down to S & D forum. Thank you to all who have helped me here.
fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Separated 9/2019; Divorced 8/2024
Areukiddingme ( member #41950) posted at 11:36 AM on Monday, July 14th, 2014
So sorry to hear this. I think this is all of our worst fears. Please stay strong. Sending strength your way.
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 11:43 AM on Monday, July 14th, 2014
WTH??
I'm so sorry.
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
blakesteele ( member #38044) posted at 12:10 PM on Monday, July 14th, 2014
(((Crazyblindsided)))
It is with much sadness that I read this post. I'm sorry your husband has chosen as he has. The truth is waywards have a ton of work to do within themselves. The truth is they are waywards because of a serious lack of fortitude to change known destructive and isolating patterns. Add to this the serious pain and trauma their choices have created and it is easy (but oh so painful) to see why adultery is considered the trial of trials for a M..
Truth is God gets this. He too is sad, but He Is compassionate.
Truth is your sharing of your story has helped others write theirs....no more true then in my case. My third DD of 4 weeks ago has me facing some painful truths of my own.
You are one of my original brat pack members. I've started to go into the S and D forum anyway....so I'll keep an eye out for you in there.
Keep reaching out.,..we have your back.
God is with us all.
[This message edited by blakesteele at 6:35 AM, July 14th (Monday)]
ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.
Hatemyhusband ( member #41633) posted at 12:35 PM on Monday, July 14th, 2014
Only you know when it is time and I admire your strength for saying "It's time"
Yes, we all fear what you posted- another DD, but as I have said to my H, there will NOT be any chance for R if any of the agreed upon conditions have not been followed
Hold your head up high. Move full speed ahead. Time to focus on you and be done w this path
rachelc ( member #30314) posted at 1:35 PM on Monday, July 14th, 2014
Sunnydaysahead ( member #43756) posted at 4:18 PM on Monday, July 14th, 2014
I just read your post in the S/D column, I am so very sorry your husband made the choices he did. I admire your courage and for respecting yourself to know you have had enough. I wish you strength and peace in the coming days.
((CB))
hopefull77 ( member #43221) posted at 4:25 PM on Monday, July 14th, 2014
I am sorry to read this CB....
this journey is a hard one ...moving forward is the only way to go....your priority is YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN...keep the faith in yourself and do not doubt yourself...
Again YOU are the priority!
me-BS him-WS
" I will not define myself by what went wrong yesterday when I can draw upon Life and Love right now."
Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 4:40 PM on Monday, July 14th, 2014
Oh honey. You've worked, so, so hard. Please don't let this deter you from your continued self-healing. You are worth so.much.more. than he has given you. I am sure you are so hurt right now. Big, big hugs.
Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
ItsaClimb ( member #37107) posted at 7:06 PM on Monday, July 14th, 2014
{{crazyblindsided}} I am so, so sorry. I have followed your journey for a long time now and it breaks my heart to know you are going through this. We're still here for you, don't forget that. Sending you positive thoughts and prayers xx
BS 52
Together 35 yrs, M 31 years
2 daughters 30yo(married with 2 children) & 25yo
D-Day 18 Aug 2012
6mth EA lead to 4mth PA with CO-W. I found out 8 1/2 yrs later
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 11:03 PM on Monday, July 14th, 2014
I'm really sorry you have to go through this.
I'm glad you've found the strength and clarity to do it, though.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
hopefullromantic ( member #16652) posted at 7:18 PM on Tuesday, July 15th, 2014
It's not really a fairy tale 'til the witch is deposed and a few dragons are slain
Reconciled
LA44 ( member #38384) posted at 4:09 AM on Sunday, July 20th, 2014
Oh goodness ((cbs))...I am so sorry.
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
This Topic is Archived
