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Topic: Final Dday
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crazyblindsided
♀ 35215
Member # 35215 |  Posted: 5:16 AM, July 14th (Monday), 2014 |     |
I just had my final Dday 3 days ago and will not be in R. I will be moving down to S & D forum. Thank you to all who have helped me here.
BS/FWS (me):40 Madhatter
WS/BS:42 Serial Cheater
Together 18 years, Married 13
DD(10) DS(7)
DDay(s) 5/08 OW1, 5/09 OW1, 3/30/12 OW2
Final Dday 7/11/14 Same OW2
Posts: 2308 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California |
Areukiddingme
♀ 41950
Member # 41950 | | Posted: 5:36 AM, July 14th (Monday), 2014 | |
So sorry to hear this. I think this is all of our worst fears. Please stay strong. Sending strength your way.
Posts: 58 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Southeast |
confused615
♀ 30826
Member # 30826 | | Posted: 5:43 AM, July 14th (Monday), 2014 | |
WTH??
I'm so sorry.
BS(me)42
FWH 46
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciled. Love my "new" husband!
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
Posts: 8382 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana |
blakesteele
♂ 38044
Member # 38044 | | Posted: 6:10 AM, July 14th (Monday), 2014 | |
(((Crazyblindsided)))
It is with much sadness that I read this post. I'm sorry your husband has chosen as he has. The truth is waywards have a ton of work to do within themselves. The truth is they are waywards because of a serious lack of fortitude to change known destructive and isolating patterns. Add to this the serious pain and trauma their choices have created and it is easy (but oh so painful) to see why adultery is considered the trial of trials for a M..
Truth is God gets this. He too is sad, but He Is compassionate.
Truth is your sharing of your story has helped others write theirs....no more true then in my case. My third DD of 4 weeks ago has me facing some painful truths of my own.
You are one of my original brat pack members. I've started to go into the S and D forum anyway....so I'll keep an eye out for you in there.
Keep reaching out.,..we have your back.
God is with us all. [This message edited by blakesteele at 6:35 AM, July 14th (Monday)]
ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.
Posts: 4318 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri |
Hatemyhusband
41633
Member # 41633 | | Posted: 6:35 AM, July 14th (Monday), 2014 | |
Only you know when it is time and I admire your strength for saying "It's time"
Yes, we all fear what you posted- another DD, but as I have said to my H, there will NOT be any chance for R if any of the agreed upon conditions have not been followed
Hold your head up high. Move full speed ahead. Time to focus on you and be done w this path
Posts: 468 | Registered: Dec 2013 |
rachelc
♀ 30314
Member # 30314 | | Posted: 7:35 AM, July 14th (Monday), 2014 | |
((CBS))
his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12
me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's
“Most things will be okay eventually, but not everything will be. Acceptance is a small, quiet room.”
Posts: 6149 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest |
Sunnydaysahead
♀ 43756
Member # 43756 | | Posted: 10:18 AM, July 14th (Monday), 2014 | |
I just read your post in the S/D column, I am so very sorry your husband made the choices he did. I admire your courage and for respecting yourself to know you have had enough. I wish you strength and peace in the coming days.
((CB))
Posts: 100 | Registered: Jun 2014 |
hopefull77
♀ 43221
Member # 43221 | | Posted: 10:25 AM, July 14th (Monday), 2014 | |
I am sorry to read this CB....
this journey is a hard one ...moving forward is the only way to go....your priority is YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN...keep the faith in yourself and do not doubt yourself...
Again YOU are the priority!
me-BS
him-WS
3 adult children 1D 2S
married-1977
LTA 06-2010 - 11-2012
D-day - 11-11-2012
status - reconciling and very hopeful
"Let Go of Control; Let God's Life Flow" ...Richard Rohr
Posts: 754 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: sunny california |
Rebreather
♀ 30817
Member # 30817 | | Posted: 10:40 AM, July 14th (Monday), 2014 | |
Oh honey. You've worked, so, so hard. Please don't let this deter you from your continued self-healing. You are worth so.much.more. than he has given you. I am sure you are so hurt right now. Big, big hugs.
Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
Posts: 6794 | Registered: Jan 2011 |
ItsaClimb
♀ 37107
Member # 37107 | | Posted: 1:06 PM, July 14th (Monday), 2014 | |
{{crazyblindsided}} I am so, so sorry. I have followed your journey for a long time now and it breaks my heart to know you are going through this. We're still here for you, don't forget that. Sending you positive thoughts and prayers xx
BS 47
Together 29 yrs, M 26 years
2 daughters 25yo(married with a brand new little daughter) & 19yo
D-Day 18 Aug 2012
6mth EA lead to 4mth PA with CO-W. I found out 8 1/2 yrs later
Posts: 1108 | Registered: Oct 2012 |
sisoon
♂ 31240
Member # 31240 | | Posted: 5:03 PM, July 14th (Monday), 2014 | |
I'm really sorry you have to go through this.
I'm glad you've found the strength and clarity to do it, though.
fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 70 (22 in my head), Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.
Posts: 10963 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area |
hopefullromantic
♀ 16652
Member # 16652 | | Posted: 1:18 PM, July 15th (Tuesday), 2014 | |
((((crazyblindsided))))
It's not really a fairy tale 'till the witch is deposed and a few dragons are slain
Posts: 1814 | Registered: Oct 2007 |
LA44
♀ 38384
Member # 38384 | | Posted: 10:09 PM, July 19th (Saturday), 2014 | |
Oh goodness ((cbs))...I am so sorry.
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
Posts: 2832 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh |
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