It was a chance encounter. Wrong place at the wrong time, I guess.
I am still processing my feelings.
I won't lie... it stung to see a cute little girl hugging my ex's leg. A scene I had dreamed about many times, only it was supposed to be MY daughter or son.
He introduced us...awkward. He said "This is daddy's friend, Whalers..."
I squatted down and said hi. I asked about the stuffed animal she was holding, if it had a name.
She is a gorgeous little girl. When she was younger, I could see the resemblance to my ex (in photos). Now she looks like a mini OW.
The whole encounter probably lasted a minute but it felt like an eternity.
I stepped outside and took a few deep breaths.
I'm okay, I think.
The whole thing is just so odd... how easily someone can go from being your other half to more or less a stranger in a familiar body.
ETA: I used to avoid places I knew they might go, because I was afraid of this happening After 4 years, though, I realized that I was giving them a power and still letting him control me. I guess now that it happened I can relax - I can't see much worse happening.
[This message edited by Whalers11 at 12:45 PM, July 14th (Monday)]
I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. You are truly the better person.
(((Whalers11)))
What a good heart you have, to be kind to the little girl. ((HUGS))
((Whalers))
It was good of you to be so kind to the little girl, but that takes a really big heart and a lot of strength.
I love kids, and I never wanted to hold anything against OC - this had nothing to do with her, really. I mostly feel bad for her that she ended up with 2 selfish pricks for parents.
[This message edited by OK now at 1:02 PM, July 14th (Monday)]
I agree sooo much how you said the OC had nothing to do with it , its the selfish pricks she ended up with ..in my case a mom who is a loser who clings to men to support her , she would often tell me she didnt want my bf that they were friends , (yah right ) and he is a sick , rude, mean , heartless , lying , cheating drug addict.. i hope with all my heart they both change because this child didnt ask for this.. he would often tell me that he needed a child to fix him..additionaly a year before she got pregnant, i had gotten pregnant myself.... so I can totally understand your story.. we can relate to each other a ton
[This message edited by SI Staff at 1:27 PM, July 22nd (Tuesday)]
OW was his ex he always convinced was his friend .. moved in her and knocked her up , got together behind my back
Ddays : many in 2009 and 2010 final dday : Sept 2012 after being broken up 3 w
You rock.
Me - 36 BS Him - doesn't matter 2 DS DD 11/08 Divorced.
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You handled this so well.
I hope I handle my encounter with as much grace and sophistication that you did.
I know it wasn't easy. Just thinking about this for myself makes me sick.
[This message edited by IrishGirlVA at 2:19 PM, July 22nd (Tuesday)]
Married 27 years. Together 29.
3 children 24, 21, 14
OW sex addict and romance addict according to MC. WH just your ordinary asshole.
Job well done, I'd say.
[This message edited by GabyBaby at 3:26 PM, July 22nd (Tuesday)]
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs. XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
I edit often for clarity/typos.
Whaler you are an amazing and kind woman. I can't even begin to imagine what you were feeling but you handled yourself so beautifully. I wish you the most wonderful of futures, you deserve the best
You have always been, and continue to be, a class act with nothing but dignity.
Kudos to you.
(((hugs)))
My Affair: 2015 Status: trying to pick up the pieces.
