We are in our 60s and although I'm still surprised when my H reminds me how old we look to the world outside, I'm shocked when people tell us how 'cute' we are or how much they want to be 'in love' like us when they're 'our age'.
And we have been dealing with the fallout of my husband's infidelity for almost five years.
You never know what goes on behind the curtains of a marriage. IMO, if you've made it 40 years living with one person, chances are pretty good you've hurt one another.....even broken each other's hearts, somehow --drugs, alcohol, money, lies, family bullshit and even infidelity.
All those years, you've had really good times together and really bad times together, but you both decided to work hard so you could make it, together. And that's the face the world sees....there's a lot more the world doesn't see.
I think every couple can have it, but they both have to really want it and work very hard at it and know it's not always roses and the thorns are a bitch, but when the roses bloom, the sweet scent is unforgettable.