If you aren't around any of them, who cares what they say about anyone?
I do not talk to my family. I changed my number and email address and didn't even give it to my family. I would steer clear of them. If your oldest sister tells your kids lies then why is she around them?
I have an idea, use this as an opportunity to make a choice and a stand FOR your BS. If you need to, Call them, email them, send a letter, change your number, delete them from FB, or wherever you have contact with them. It seems to me that there is FOO issues that are rearing their heads right now. And YOUR family is trying to regain control of YOU.
For myself I realized that even if my M fails and we D. That I do not want to be around those kind of negative people and influences any more. I would rather walk this earth alone, then surround myself with negativity.
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"If you don't eat the elephant in one bite, it might trample you while chewing"
ME: WH HER: BS (holesinmybucket)
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Regarding the rest - block them. If they call, don't answer, and block them from email, FB, etc.
Regarding slander - if you have proof that they've said it, and that it has caused harm in your life, sue them.
It sounds like you are dealing with people that are not in their right minds. I don't know what a letter from an attorney will do.
I would block them immediately, and look into the restraining order.
The only 2 family members I talk to are my 1/2 brother because he is the only sane one. And my NPD mother, because for me to heal I have to learn to stand up to her. And for us. We are looking at selling and moving.
Explain that you do not want them to contact you, your wife, the children, or their school for any reason. Tell them that the nature of their communication is unwelcome. Then state that if they cannot follow your wishes you will pursue any recourse, legal or otherwise, to enforce no contact.
Just my two cents. But I would also consider contacting an attorney about it. Sounds like harassment to me. Not to mention abusive of your BW, and totally unacceptable.
I also rarely speak to my family. My dad once in a while, but not my brother or mother.
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If that doesn't help, you should talk to an attorney. Unfortunately, as I tell lots of my clients, there is no law against being an asshole. There might be some things that the attorney can help you curb. But no attorney is going to clear up all of these issues.
In my experience, often letters from an attorney only turns up the crazy. A lawsuit for slander is a difficult action to carry through. Sometimes it just reinforces all the negatives that are already going through the mind of the crazy person.
I usually try to talk my clients out of slander threats (please note this is NOT legal advice ). For you, you need to become the first line of defense. You need to teach your kids that your family is wrong and mean spirited. You need to stand up to your family. Cut all of them off -- no Christmas, birthdays, whatever.
They try to communicate with the kids through school and from stalking them on FB and through their friends.
Schools are so paranoid these days you can stop anything from getting to your children if it's through the school. FB - They should be blocked completely. Your kids can set their FB page to private and not accept messages from non-friends. If the page is private, they won't know who their friends are.
It's truly wrong! It's been like this with anyone I've ever dated long before the wife, so it's not her, it's them.
I'm not even going to ask why they have such a hatred for anyone you involve yourself with because it's irrelevant. I would look into the restraining order on each one of them. That way, if they mail something, they can be arrested.
I'm sorry they're bothering your kids, but again - tell the school that NO messages are to get to your children unless it comes from you or your wife, period. Tell them what is happening and ask for a password or some other method so the school knows it's actually you or your wife. FB is very easy to be left alone on. Go into settings, set it to private, and no messages from anyone that isn't a friend. That way, they can make all the new FB identities they want - they still can't get word one to your kids or see who their friends are to get to them that way.
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