I've been trying to stay positive and work hard on our R. Came across an article and took a few things out and wrote down and will keep it near me so I can read it anytime. Thought they may help others:
Just because itís not happening now, doesnít mean it never will. Sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can be right
if youíre too afraid of failure, you canít possibly do what needs to be done to be successful.
Realizing that grudges from the past are a perfect waste of todayís happiness, and that holding one is like letting unwanted company live rent free in your head
What you have today may become what you have tomorrow. You never know. Things change, often spontaneously. Life doesnít stop for anybody. It moves rapidly and rushes from calm to chaos in a matter of seconds, and happens like this to people every day. Itís likely happening to someone nearby right now.
Sometimes the shortest split second in time changes the direction of our lives. A seemingly innocuous decision rattles our whole world like a meteorite striking Earth. Entire lives have been swiveled and flipped upside down, for better or worse, on the strength of an unpredictable event. And these events are always happening. However good or bad a situation is now, it will change. Thatís the one thing you can count on. So when life is good, enjoy it.
Be bold. Be courageous. Be scared to death, and then take the next step anyway.
Me: BS 45 yrs old
Him: WS 45 yrs old
Married 21 years
3 children, 18,16,12
Length of affair: 4 months
R going well