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Topic: Article on D-proofing and A-proofing our Ms

sisoon
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Posted: 7:21 PM, July 16th (Wednesday), 2014

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/07/14/affair-proof-marriage_n_5552891.html?utm_hp_ref=divorce&ir=Divorce

Now I understand why I always responded negatively to any of the stuff I saw on divorce-proofing and affair-proofing my M.

Quick summary: You can't 'proof' your M because you can't control what other people - even our Ws and Hs - do. The best one can do is to be as good a person as possible.

fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 70 (22 in my head), Married 45+, together since 1965, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I

Posts: 11100 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area

hopefull77
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Member # 43221

Posted: 8:24 PM, July 16th (Wednesday), 2014

Haven't read the article...but I can only affair proof myself!

me-BS
him-WS
3 adult children 1D 2S
married-1977
LTA 06-2010 - 11-2012
D-day - 11-11-2012
status - reconciling and very hopeful
"Let Go of Control; Let God's Life Flow" ...Richard Rohr

Posts: 795 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: sunny california

FixYou71
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Posted: 12:11 AM, July 17th (Thursday), 2014

Amen brotha!

BS: 43
H: 50
Dday #1 Oct 2007 (Porn for 2 yrs)
Dday #2 May 2013 (Porn for 5 more yrs))
Dday#3 May 2014 (finally admitted to drunk kissing OW in 1994: the 2nd drunken kiss with another woman during our M)
DD 21 and DS 18
Married 1993

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