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lostcovenants posted 7/17/2014 20:23 PM

Notice how most of us can list the exact date of our D-day? I guess we can add this to the list of dates/places that are forever burned into our memories ... Kennedy's assignation, Armstrong's first step on the moon, the attack on the World Trade Center/pentagon/ and wherever those poor brave souls on the Pennsylvania flight were headed..... And God help us all - our D-day(s). I can't remember my zip code half the time - but July 8th 2013 will forever be burned into my brain.

hopeful325 posted 7/17/2014 20:31 PM

Mine was my best friends birthday, I hate that her special day will always be tarnished in my mind :(

healingroad posted 7/17/2014 21:05 PM

D-day #1 Christmas Eve
D-day #2: DS birthday

Won't ever forget.

Gemini71 posted 7/17/2014 21:08 PM

You never forget the days that the world as you knew it ended.

OakStreet posted 7/17/2014 21:11 PM

I have so many antiversary dates coming up:

When they first connected.
when I first suspected.
My actual anniversary (which I won't be celebrating this year).
And then Dday.

Yippee!

PurpleRose posted 7/17/2014 21:16 PM

True... But the farther out I have gotten, the less this date means to me anymore. Of course, I divorced the Doosh so I am sure that has something to do with my feelings.

My divorce date is a date of celebration for me now. It's 2 days before my dday (on the calendar) so it took the sting out of dday for me.

simplydevastated posted 7/17/2014 21:23 PM

June 12th, 2008. The day my world crashed and burned.

norabird posted 7/17/2014 21:32 PM

Like PurpleRose, I hope and think these become less burned into our brains with time. It is amazing how the dates stick with everyone. But I firmly believe the impact fades!

Uhtred posted 7/17/2014 23:37 PM

I don't remember much but my god I remember that day like the back of my hand. I've never felt worse even after having several close people die. A death is something that is natural I guess and easier to deal with.

Bobbi_sue posted 7/18/2014 01:03 AM

Actually, I don't remember any of the exact dates of D-days in my first M (there were 4 of them). It is my opinion, that at least for me, the main reason I remember the two D-days from my current M is because of this forum, realizing we have a term called "D-day" and there is the word antiversary, to commemorate the date in future years.

In the first M, the first D-day was about three years into the M, when our D was about one. I can't pin point it any further than that. I don't even know if it was summer or winter. The second D-day was in November of 1988. I only remember it was slightly before Thanksgiving and I was 7 months preg. with our 3rd child. I remember crying on Thanksgiving, and being thankful for nothing...

The 3rd D-day can be narrowed down to either right before the new year of 1989 began (that same OW from a couple of months earlier). If I wanted to do a little homework I could definitely figure out the exact date of the fourth D-day as I do remember that it was on a Sunday, Father's Day, 1992. I remember trying to make the day normal for the kids. We went to McDonalds with him to "celebrate" Father's day. I didn't confront him until after they went to bed that night. I filed for a D two days later.

Lark posted 7/18/2014 01:41 AM

June 6, 2014, 12:30ish a.m. is when I opened the phone log. 2:17 a.m. is when I called and told him to come home. 4ish a.m. is when I found out it had been sexual and not just sexting. 11:30ish a.m. is when I found out about OW1 and that it went back a year.

determinata posted 7/18/2014 02:19 AM

It's been 7 years and the exact dates have faded for me. There's so much other b.s. to remember and be traumatized by.

BrokenButTrying posted 7/18/2014 03:25 AM

I don't remember my first Dday. Like Bobbi_Sue said, I didn't have SI, I didn't discuss it with anyone, I didn't have it written down, least of all in a signature on a forum I read everyday.
I remember the day, I remember what happened but not the date.

I know it was either some time in late 2009 or early 2010 but beyond that, I honestly couldn't tell you. I have 01/10 because it was around that time, January 2010, but I didn't want to run out of characters in my sig!

My 2nd Dday, I remember because it happened after I found SI and I put in my signature so I see it every day.

[This message edited by BrokenButTrying at 3:27 AM, July 18th (Friday)]

stunnedmullet posted 7/18/2014 03:43 AM

I will never forget the day that my world as I knew it crumbled and my heart broke into a million pieces

Flatlined123 posted 7/18/2014 04:20 AM

July 11, 2008 at 1:29 pm

A date that will be forever burned in my brain. The day my life as I knew it fell apart.

It just passed and didn't crush me, but I'll never forget that day.

Ailanthus posted 7/18/2014 05:06 AM

October 21, 2012.
You know, on the one year anniversary, I was prepared to feel devastated all over again. And I wasn't. Our divorce had been finalized the previous month, it was a beautiful day, I wore a pretty dress to work…it didn't destroy me again. Still, I doubt I will ever forget the date.

confused615 posted 7/18/2014 05:23 AM

August 10, 2010...11:54am.

I had just glanced at the clock as I sat down at the computer..and found his secret email account logged in.

TheBestMe posted 7/18/2014 05:37 AM

I do not remember when my gut told me that my H was having an A. During the LTA each day of the A was a continuing D-day.

Oh, but the day the shit hit the fan! I remember every single detail. My therapist said that contact from it made the A real.

Coincidently, it was the same day that my H and I began his cancer journey. This day, was the day that I had to face the fact that my life as I had hoped, was no more.

Damn....

kernel posted 7/18/2014 05:42 AM

For me it was New Year's Eve, so kind of hard to forget. It isn't a trigger or anything, not anymore. I do sometimes measure time in how long since the divorce, or how long before D-day, i.e. moved to XXX 3 years before D-day, crap like that. I need to stop that.

TheIrishGirl posted 7/18/2014 05:55 AM

Yup. My world has crashed twice in the same week- four years apart. 4.16.10 I lost my first pregnancy. 4.18.14 I lost my husband... Well, found out I'd lost him, he's been gone a while.