My wife, two boys, and myself are at our kitchen table tonight discussing how we should take advantage of being together, make it a family night. We pre-concluded that seeing the new Transformer movie would be an good neutral choice.
During the end of our discussion, the phone rings, and its my son's coworker asking my son to work for him. My son replies he can't, that he's seeing a movie tonight with his family, -its a family night.
The movie wasn't for two more hours so we continued talking, transitioning to the upcoming college year, budget, bills, and just whatever about college. Two hours pass and my wife says it's time to get ready. My son replies he shouldn't go. I think our discussion of paying the college bills and needing to save more money made him feel guilty.
Instantly, and I mean instantly, my wife reminds my son he would be lying if he did not go see the movie, -he told his coworker he was going.
Wow, even I didn't catch this.
Sure my wife manipulated my son into going with us, she wanted him to go, but I like tactic and I like how she rated not lying as important. I also liked her fighting to hold together our family night. Before D-day the three of us would be covering for her white lies.
Things are different now and I like it. It's unplanned, unscripted times like this that make me feel good about our recovery. Its a true change in the right direction.