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User Topic: Family humanitarian trip...pray for us please.
blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 9:21 AM, July 18th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So Tuesday we leave as a family to a third world country for a humanitarian trip. Never done this before. Not church-affiliated, not group-effort...just my family. This charity was looking for a professional to donate their talents in a very specific area. My wife possess those talents. It works out well because myself and our girls are actually going to do the work the charity does. Yep, at age 7 and 10 they have an active, vital role in doing the work this charity champions!!!!

We have prayed on this and been planning this for 10 months. It is the right thing to do....we just know it.

Still, a part of me is anxious. We will be gone for 2 weeks. Wife and I have been to Germany, Austria and Switzerland before....but this is a third world country with our girls! I am trusting God will be with us.

Those who pray please add us to your prayer list until after August 8th....when we plan to return home.

This is unlike anything we have ever done...mostly excited, with just enough nervousness to be aware.

Thanks!

God is with us all.

[This message edited by blakesteele at 10:44 PM, July 18th (Friday)]


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.

Posts: 4126 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
musiclovingmom
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Default  Posted: 9:44 AM, July 18th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Blake, I think it is amazing that you are involving your children in service projects and that you are doing it as a family. What a great way to ensure that your daughters grow to be compassionate, involved women! I have friends who just moved their family (2 daughters, 5&6 and a new baby on the way) to Mozambique for the next 4 years. I admire people like you, and them, who have the courage and the resolve to go way out of your comfort zones in service of others. Best wishes to you all. I'll be praying.

[This message edited by musiclovingmom at 9:45 AM, July 18th (Friday)]


Posts: 1168 | Registered: Jan 2013
putonahappyface
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Default  Posted: 9:45 AM, July 18th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love that you all are doing this together, as a family unit! It's going to be an amazing, rewarding experience. Spread His light into all the corners of the world! Godspeed Blakesteele & fam, prayers going up!

[This message edited by putonahappyface at 9:50 AM, July 18th (Friday)]


BS (me) - 50; SAWH- 51 (hurtherbadly)
Married 27 yrs
2 DS - 21&17
Dday 6/4/2010. 2 EA/PA
11/15/12 update: discovered porn addiction
4 years out: M is strong; FWH is a new man :)


Posts: 721 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Bluegrass
blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 10:03 AM, July 18th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks guys! This whole effort started 3 years ago and has been spearheaded by my wife. The evolution from a family vacation to this is really my wife's story to share. It is an amazing one. It is a blessing to be able to include our young girls. We are also blessed to be able to afford this. So many blessings........ya'll are a blessing to us too! Thanks for the support and prayers.

Comfort zone? Lost track of what one was!!!! I know the past 2 years have trained us to be handle lots of discomfort!!!!

Peace.


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.

Posts: 4126 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
TheIrishGirl
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Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, July 18th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck! My sister just got back from a year in Malawi with the Peace Corps- she said it was challenging & amazing. I hope you and your family will say the same of your experience.


Me: 31, BW Him: 38, WH
2 children (ours) 7/11 & 3/14
D-day 4/18/14 I saw his 'other' email

Posts: 801 | Registered: May 2014
DixieD
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Default  Posted: 10:53 AM, July 18th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like a wonderful experience for all of you. Good luck on your journey and safe travels.


Growing forward

Posts: 1767 | Registered: Sep 2011
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, July 18th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like a terrific step in R. What a beautiful way to teach your kids about giving back. Saying prayers and sending good wishes for a safe trip.

Posts: 36761 | Registered: Mar 2011
Healinggirl
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Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, July 18th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My daughter volunteers in a third world country and I went to see her for two weeks last November.

Believe me, being bitten by ants and the odd mozzie was no big deal after what I'd been through. (I'm simplifying here...). I realized how tough dealing with my fWH's affair had actually made me, I had grown into a very different person.

In fact, if I ever end up D, I'm going to join her. It's my plan 'B'.

So enjoy.........it's an amazing experience, both to help other people, but also to see how much you have personally grown..

[This message edited by Healinggirl at 1:03 PM, July 18th (Friday)]


Me 58
WS 58 Sexually abused as a boy
OW Prostitutes in double figures
OW Home wrecking, work-shy, gold-digging secondary abuser

D Day 11 November 2012
Reconciling

You can't scale a mountain in a single step


Posts: 147 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Uk
sisoon
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Default  Posted: 1:21 PM, July 18th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wish you all the best. You're doing a great thing.


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10744 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
wifehad5
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Default  Posted: 4:04 PM, July 18th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12

The people you do your life with shape the life you live


Posts: 37845 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
brokensmile322
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Default  Posted: 4:18 PM, July 18th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Best wishes to you Blakesteele and family! Prayers sent. Godspeed!


Me BS 42 Him WS 44
OW Coworker DDay April 7, 2012
EA on a slippery slope...

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl

"When you are happy, you can forgive a great deal."


Posts: 1607 | Registered: Jun 2012
rachelc
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Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, July 18th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

prayers... your daughters will never forget this...


his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave. Tell the truth and don’t take any shit.”


Posts: 5736 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest
brokendancer7
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Default  Posted: 4:51 PM, July 18th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is not analogous to your trip, but my FWH and I recently spent a week out of town engaged in an activity that totally absorbed all our time and attention. Somehow, during that week, I felt the first loosening of anger and hurt that I have felt since DD. It was great to be totally absorbed in something to the point that the A receded into the background for a while.

Safe travels, and I hope y'all have a healing and meaningful time as a family.


Me: BS - 58
Him: WS - 56
Married 34 yrs

Latest DD - April 2013, PA


Posts: 198 | Registered: Jul 2013
authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 4:59 PM, July 18th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Safe travels. I think that you are doing a beautiful thing.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


Posts: 38923 | Registered: Sep 2007
peaceBmine
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Default  Posted: 8:13 PM, July 18th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Praying. Enjoy and know that you are making a difference.


Me (BS)- 42
Him (WS)- 44
Married 21 years
3 beautiful daughters (18,16,14)
DDay- 4/23/14- 6 month EA turned PA just before DDay

Posts: 414 | Registered: Jul 2014
bionicgal
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Default  Posted: 10:42 PM, July 18th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Traveling mercies! Can't wait to hear about it.


me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.

Posts: 2241 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
still-living
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Default  Posted: 7:22 AM, July 19th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Now that's a life changing family trip. Wish you well.


BH(me)47
WW 47 FOO Issues
DDay 11/09 Coworker
High School Sweethearts
Married 06/91
8 months TT
Sons 19 and 14
Recovery is constructing a pyramid of inference from which to see clearer.
The process involves using the reflexive loop.

Posts: 808 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Ches
Neverwudaguessed
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Default  Posted: 8:18 AM, July 19th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a life-changing experience for all of you: I can't wait to hear how it went!!! Good luck and enjoy.


BW: 44 Me
WH:48
DDay1 9-9-13 (18th Wedding Anniversary) 6 wk EA, 1 wk PA
DDay2: 10-25-13 EA/PA with same OW 12 1/2 years ago for 3 months
OW: XGF Predator who never stopped pursuing WH
DS 13
DD 11

Posts: 798 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: New York
ItsaClimb
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Default  Posted: 10:05 AM, July 19th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hope you have a wonderful time blake, it's a great thing your family is doing


BS 46
Together 29 yrs, M 25 years
2 daughters 24yo(married with a brand new little daughter) & 19yo
D-Day 18 Aug 2012
6mth EA lead to 4mth PA with CO-W. I found out 8 1/2 yrs later

Posts: 1025 | Registered: Oct 2012
LA44
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Default  Posted: 9:14 PM, July 19th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Prayers for a safe and peaceful trip, blakesteele. Something you will never forget!

LA


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

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