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Topic: Best friend's wife passed
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WarehouseGuy
♂ 6037
Member # 6037 |  Posted: 9:33 AM, July 18th (Friday), 2014 |     |
My best friend's wife has been in the hospital for almost 7 months suffering from diabetes and other related illnesses.
She was put into a medically induced coma about a week ago after she passed and they brought her back. A brain scan showed no activity yesterday and they got her into hospice about midnight last night. She passed about 2 hours later.
Hospice is a Godsend. It takes the burden of the spouse having to make the decision of when all hope is gone and it's time to pull the plug. I'm actually glad it happened this way for him. I feared he couldn't have lived with the decision if he had to make it.
((((Mary))) Gods speed to you 
If you see your ex with someone else--don't be jealous. Our parents taught us to give our old,used toys to the less fortunate.
Posts: 5652 | Registered: Dec 2004 | From: Michigan |
Deeply Scared
♀ 2
Member # 2 | | Posted: 9:38 AM, July 18th (Friday), 2014 | |
RIP Mary. 
You're a really good friend WHG...I'm sure your friend is eternally grateful to have you with him through this painful journey.
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
Posts: 200111 | Registered: May 2002 |
norabird
♀ 42092
Member # 42092 | | Posted: 9:50 AM, July 18th (Friday), 2014 | |
Sending my thoughts to your friend and to Mary. And to you, too.
((((Mary))))
(((WHG)))))
Sit. Feast on your life.
Posts: 4262 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC |
jo2love
♀ 31528
Member # 31528 | | Posted: 9:56 AM, July 18th (Friday), 2014 | |
(((WG))) (((Friend and family))
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Posts: 37579 | Registered: Mar 2011 |
InnerLight
♀ 19946
Member # 19946 | | Posted: 10:13 AM, July 18th (Friday), 2014 | |
I am so sorry. Something similar happened recently with my sisters husband. He was in a coma with no hope of a meaningful recovery. I was with my sister when they pulled the plug and he passed after 2 hours. It is heartbreaking. I hope you have the strength to support your best friend whether it's listening, helping him to eat meals, or planning the memorial.
BS, now age 54, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years M and 20 together. In some ways I have not 'gotten over it'. But I am resilient and have created a good life where I am mostly happy.
Posts: 6028 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California |
wifehad5
♂ 15162
Member # 15162 | | Posted: 12:41 PM, July 18th (Friday), 2014 | |
(((WG)))
FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12
The people you do your life with shape the life you live
Posts: 38495 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan |
LosferWords
♂ 30369
Member # 30369 | | Posted: 12:42 PM, July 18th (Friday), 2014 | |
I'm so sorry to hear that, WHG. My condolences to you, your friend, and their family.
(((WHG)))
Posts: 9019 | Registered: Dec 2010 |
yearsofpain25
♂ 42012
Member # 42012 | | Posted: 12:50 PM, July 18th (Friday), 2014 | |
I'm very sorry to hear this WHG. MY thoughts are with you and your friend.
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
Posts: 2674 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Northeast US |
WarehouseGuy
♂ 6037
Member # 6037 | | Posted: 1:59 PM, July 18th (Friday), 2014 | |
I'm gonna show him this thread. He might like to see the sympathy and empathy from complete strangers. Probably not now--probably in a few days. Don't know if it will help him or not--but it's nice to know that complete strangers care. 
Thanks guys.
whg 
If you see your ex with someone else--don't be jealous. Our parents taught us to give our old,used toys to the less fortunate.
Posts: 5652 | Registered: Dec 2004 | From: Michigan |
still2suspicious
♀ 31722
Member # 31722 | | Posted: 3:02 PM, July 18th (Friday), 2014 | |
You are a true friend, WG.
I am sorry for the passing of your BF's wife.
Sending prayers to BF and family.
Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA
Posts: 1347 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From: |
deeplysad
♀ 16590
Member # 16590 | | Posted: 3:05 PM, July 18th (Friday), 2014 | |
I'm very sorry for your friend, but I'm glad he has such a good friend in you!!! Our friends and family are what gets us through.
(((WG and Friend)))
Me: BW - I'm much too young to feel this damn old
Him: FWH - Midlife crisis with a pathetic porn wannabe
D-Day: August 2004; Lots of false R until February 2005.
It takes all kinds of kinds....Miranda Lambert
Posts: 3269 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: So Calif |
Catwoman
♀ 1330
Member # 1330 | | Posted: 9:20 AM, July 19th (Saturday), 2014 | |
I am so sorry for you and your friend. It sounds like he did the right thing. Hospice is such a Godsend.
Cat
FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 25 and 22. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."
Posts: 29803 | Registered: Apr 2003 | From: Massachusetts |
Lostly
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Member # 43953 | | Posted: 10:41 AM, July 19th (Saturday), 2014 | |
I am so sorry. What an awful loss. Sending prayers and love to both you and your dear friend.
BW 48 - Multiple d-days
Divorced 2012 after 19 yrs
6 smart, beautiful, amazing kids Dd 19; Ds 17; Dd 15; Ds 13; Ds 11; Dd 10
Sometimes I hear my voice, and it's been here, silent all these years. I've been here, silent all these years.
Posts: 112 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: Australia |
TS68
♀ 40211
Member # 40211 | | Posted: 12:04 PM, July 19th (Saturday), 2014 | |
Maybe transferring her to hospice gave her permission to let go... Permission to give up the fight... Maybe it was the last gift of love he could give her...
The weather here in Michigan reflects your loss today.
(((((Friend & Mary)))))
(((((Whg)))))
Married 20 years
Posts: 277 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Midwest |
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226 | | Posted: 8:59 PM, July 19th (Saturday), 2014 | |
I can't say enough good things about hospice. So glad your friend had that support during such a terrible time.
Keeping him, his family, and you in my thoughts.
You can call me NIK
"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman
Posts: 27194 | Registered: Aug 2011 |
ThoughtIKnewYa
♀ 18449
Member # 18449 | | Posted: 1:46 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014 | |
The hospice people are truly angels on Earth!!
(((Mary)))
((Friends and family of Mary)))
May peace be with you all.
Posts: 11808 | Registered: Mar 2008 |
lynnm1947
♀ 15300
Member # 15300 | | Posted: 9:38 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014 | |
(((warehouseguy)))
Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!
"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks
Posts: 7605 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada |
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