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WarehouseGuy (original poster member #6037) posted at 3:33 PM on Friday, July 18th, 2014
My best friend's wife has been in the hospital for almost 7 months suffering from diabetes and other related illnesses.
She was put into a medically induced coma about a week ago after she passed and they brought her back. A brain scan showed no activity yesterday and they got her into hospice about midnight last night. She passed about 2 hours later.
Hospice is a Godsend. It takes the burden of the spouse having to make the decision of when all hope is gone and it's time to pull the plug. I'm actually glad it happened this way for him. I feared he couldn't have lived with the decision if he had to make it.
((((Mary))) Gods speed to you 
If you see your ex with someone else don't be jealous. Our parents taught us to give our old,used toys to the less fortunate.
Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 3:38 PM on Friday, July 18th, 2014
RIP Mary.
You're a really good friend WHG...I'm sure your friend is eternally grateful to have you with him through this painful journey.
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 3:50 PM on Friday, July 18th, 2014
Sending my thoughts to your friend and to Mary. And to you, too.
((((Mary))))
(((WHG)))))
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 3:56 PM on Friday, July 18th, 2014
(((WG))) (((Friend and family))
I'm so sorry for your loss.
InnerLight ( member #19946) posted at 4:13 PM on Friday, July 18th, 2014
I am so sorry. Something similar happened recently with my sisters husband. He was in a coma with no hope of a meaningful recovery. I was with my sister when they pulled the plug and he passed after 2 hours. It is heartbreaking. I hope you have the strength to support your best friend whether it's listening, helping him to eat meals, or planning the memorial.
BS, 64 yearsD-day 6-2-08D after 20 years together
The journey from Armageddon to Amazing Life happens one step at a time. Don't ever give up!
wifehad5 ( Administrator #15162) posted at 6:41 PM on Friday, July 18th, 2014
FBH - 52 FWW - 53 (BrokenRoad)2 kids 17 & 22The people you do your life with shape the life you live
LosferWords ( member #30369) posted at 6:42 PM on Friday, July 18th, 2014
I'm so sorry to hear that, WHG. My condolences to you, your friend, and their family.
(((WHG)))
yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 6:50 PM on Friday, July 18th, 2014
I'm very sorry to hear this WHG. MY thoughts are with you and your friend.
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
WarehouseGuy (original poster member #6037) posted at 7:59 PM on Friday, July 18th, 2014
I'm gonna show him this thread. He might like to see the sympathy and empathy from complete strangers. Probably not now--probably in a few days. Don't know if it will help him or not--but it's nice to know that complete strangers care. 
Thanks guys.
whg 
If you see your ex with someone else don't be jealous. Our parents taught us to give our old,used toys to the less fortunate.
still2suspicious ( member #31722) posted at 9:02 PM on Friday, July 18th, 2014
You are a true friend, WG.
I am sorry for the passing of your BF's wife.
Sending prayers to BF and family.
Me: BSHim: WHDDay: LTEA Every storm runs out of rain - Gary Allen
D final 2/23
deeplysad ( member #16590) posted at 9:05 PM on Friday, July 18th, 2014
I'm very sorry for your friend, but I'm glad he has such a good friend in you!!! Our friends and family are what gets us through.
(((WG and Friend)))
Me: BW - I'm much too young to feel this damn old
Him: FWH - Midlife crisis with a pathetic porn wannabe
D-Day: August 2004; Lots of false R until February 2005.
Catwoman ( member #1330) posted at 3:20 PM on Saturday, July 19th, 2014
I am so sorry for you and your friend. It sounds like he did the right thing. Hospice is such a Godsend.
Cat
FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 27 and 24. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."
Lostly ( member #43953) posted at 4:41 PM on Saturday, July 19th, 2014
I am so sorry. What an awful loss. Sending prayers and love to both you and your dear friend.
BW 48 - Multiple d-days
Divorced 2012 after 19 yrs
6 smart, beautiful, amazing kids.
I have finally found my voice and it is good!
TS68 ( member #40211) posted at 6:04 PM on Saturday, July 19th, 2014
Maybe transferring her to hospice gave her permission to let go... Permission to give up the fight... Maybe it was the last gift of love he could give her...
The weather here in Michigan reflects your loss today.
(((((Friend & Mary)))))
(((((Whg)))))
Me: 48
Him: 50
Married 22 years too many
DS19, DS17, DD10
Divorced
Know your worth.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 2:59 AM on Sunday, July 20th, 2014
I can't say enough good things about hospice. So glad your friend had that support during such a terrible time.
Keeping him, his family, and you in my thoughts.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 7:46 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
The hospice people are truly angels on Earth!!
(((Mary)))
((Friends and family of Mary)))
May peace be with you all.
lynnm1947 ( member #15300) posted at 3:38 PM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!
"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks
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