I was so shocked and I just reacted. I cannot believe he would bring that whore to my mother's house! I lost it. I called her a whore and asked why she was even here. Why she couldn't give my kids 48 hours alone with their dad? I know it really upset my dd. I'm sitting here crying now because I feel so bad. I know I should have taken the high road, but I just lost it.
She was so unbelievably snotty to me. She told me I was a bad mother, etc. Really, bitch? Who do you think has cared for these kids 24/7 while you two were fucking around? I didn't say that though.
Talk me down. I'm shaking.
[This message edited by newlysingle at 9:04 AM, July 19th (Saturday)]
Take some time to calm down. After you've done that, take some time to review the confrontation in your head so you'll be better prepared next time.
These kinds of conflicts are good for nobody; it accomplishes nothing. It's especially bad for your kids, who no doubt had to listen to continued dialogue about you and the event as they drove away to wherever they were going.
I try to remember the saying "The best revenge is living well".
DDay - June 7, 2014 Me - 44 XWW - Irrelevant DD - 2008 and 2011 Ended the cruel joke April 1, 2015. Divorced.
Try to reassure and comfort dd. I have explained to my kids that the whore has done something very hurtful to me and that we will never be friends but that doesn't mean they can't be friends with her. I hate saying that to them but I don't want them to feel torn or put in the middle.
Sometimes our emotions get the better of us.
And don't listen to hello kitty about parenting...she knows nothing about what it takes to be a good mother. YOU are a great mother.
My ipad does a lot of crazy typos.
Don't beat yourself up, shit happens and you are only human.
Review what happened, try to see how and where you could've acted differently and as CM said so you are better prepared for next time.
Then dust yourself down and get back on that high road horse.
OWUmpteen is going to have shreds torn off her and publicly ridiculed as loud and hilariously damaging as I can manage should she ever dare bring her inbred, bucktoothed, man hands, whore mug anywhere near me. Not my home. Not my girls school. Certainly not my childhood home.
That is a fact. I'm AOK with it too. I would try to move my girls out of earshot or if that isn't possible I would still do it but stick to PG words.
It would probably take me doing this about 20 times before I tired of it.
High road my arse. There are some places with no roads. My space being one of them. She's welcome to the douche - I could thank her for distracting that hot mess from thieving one more second of my life. But she doesn't get to set foot on my my territory without a hefty tax.
As for her whore talk? Whore, I don't pay you so I don't have to listen to the sound of faeces dripping out of your rancid mouth. Take yourself elsewhere and see if anyone else is interested in your 2c daily rate.
I'm sorry your DD is upset. Is she upset that there was ugliness or does she feel responsible or the cause of it? Set your guilt aside and talk it through with her from her perspective.
IMHO this is a normal reaction to an abnormal situation. This is extreme provocation and quite frankly I think you would be crying whether or not you said something. It's not right. None of it is right but this is up there with the most wrong.
((newlysingle))
[This message edited by SBB at 11:36 AM, July 19th (Saturday)]
Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013 Divorced 11/18/2014
Please take care of yourself.
Married Aug/95 DDay Nov/12 Separated Mar/13 Finally divorced Jul/17
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous!
It sounds to me as if she is threatened by you. What, she couldn't leave him alone for even a few minutes? Is she afraid her AP might cheat??? Hahaha!!! Idiot.
[This message edited by Lostly at 11:19 AM, July 19th (Saturday)]
I have finally found my voice and it is good!
Listen to SBB for proper words to use for next time.
I can't run across the words Hello and kitty without thinking about you. I was in Warsaw, Poland the other week at the national poster museum. There was a poster with "Hello Kitty" printed on it, a over an exit sign. I took a photo of it for you, and will try to figure out how to get it to you. Next time you can show the bitch the photo and point out where the exit is for her dumb ass.
That part you really should've said. I would've went nuts too. That's my biggest fear. Shame on them both.
Newlysingle, please don't beat yourself up over this. They did it on purpose to get a reaction. Unfortunately they got one. Reassure your DD and keep your head up high. YOU are not the whore- Hello Kitty is. And while she's strutting around thinking she's won some grand prize (Gnat), you know better.
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs. XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
I edit often for clarity/typos.
You know there will be another time now that they know this is a good way to push your buttons. Try practicing some snark. It'll make her feel about 2" tall instead of the other way around.
It is what it is.
The best part of this though, is that the mystery is gone. I've built her up over time that she must be beautiful, etc. Well, she has a mustache! I'm not joking! I saw the shadow over her lip from my mom's front door. She also has a flabby gut. Now, I've got some flab myself, but I've also given birth to two babies, one of them over 10 lbs. She has no kids. It is true that they affair down.
Kg201 - I can't wait to see the pic!
I called her a whore and asked why she was even here. Why she couldn't give my kids 48 hours alone with their dad?
Well I for one think you were easy on her
I amof the same mind as SBB.
He better never bring his married whore around me or my kids, and I let him know that in no uncertain terms
My kids would shame her too
[This message edited by shiloe at 5:58 PM, July 19th (Saturday)]
