You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
I don't have debt right now, but I depleted my savings with all of the moving and, yes, fun, that I had in my first 3 years post D, so I'm taking it a bit easier now.
I go to meetups, mostly hiking, and I'm starting to branch out again with short trips. I lucked out yesterday when I went for gas--I had a $.30 per gallon discount, so I fueled up and hit the road to Vermont this morning. I would have liked to hike, but I need to do a bit more planning for that to happen, so I did some retail therapy. My birthday is in 3 weeks, so I went to the outlet mall and bought a Coach purse that I'd had my eye on for quite some time. I also bought some very inexpensive clothes for DGS; winter stuff is already coming into the stores, and he lives in New Mexico, so I was able to get some nice summer things for him
I had lunch, found a stitchery shop (cross stitch is one of my hobbies) and finally bought some local wine. Now I'm sitting on my balcony at my apartment enjoying the peacefulness (my apartment is in the woods--unbelievably nice, quiet setting) listening to some Northern Goshawks in the woods.
I don't have to be at work until tomorrow afternoon, so even though I worked on Saturday, I still feel like I have a whole weekend.
Life is good. I hope you find your sweet spot
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011