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movingforward13 (original poster member #38405) posted at 2:52 PM on Sunday, July 20th, 2014
For those of you who have found love again after your divorce, especially to those who are remarried, was everything you went through concerning infidelity worth it to have what you have now?
I am struggling with this.... And trying to sort of out feelings to figure out what is really bothering me.
Once a cheater, always a cheater happens when your cheater doesn't have remorse.
Regret is not remorse- know the difference!
InnerLight ( member #19946) posted at 3:41 PM on Sunday, July 20th, 2014
Worth it?
It is just hard to assign worth to something so hideous.
Am I stronger and wiser? Yes.
Am I happier? In some ways, yes, in some ways, no.
Have a learned a lot about myself? Hell, yes!
BS, 64 yearsD-day 6-2-08D after 20 years together
The journey from Armageddon to Amazing Life happens one step at a time. Don't ever give up!
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 10:29 PM on Sunday, July 20th, 2014
I have not found love again, and I've been divorced for 6 years. It has been totally worth it. 
My life is mine now. I have met some very nice people that I wouldn't have otherwise met (male and female).
I have gotten to do so many cool things. If I die tomorrow, I feel that this has been a life well lived.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 10:49 PM on Sunday, July 20th, 2014
I had a brief fling with love post D. It was a wild ride but it wasn't meant to be. I weathered it much better than the situation with the X 
Like Williesmom, I'm enjoying my single life--immensely!
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
bigskyblues ( member #36759) posted at 11:53 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
I don't know that I can say it was "worth it."
I learned a lot from the experience though, and I can say I am happier now than I have been in a very long time. Life is good and for the most part the infidelity trauma is gone from my life.
BSB
BH 50s
xWW 50s
Dday1 7-2012
Dday2 8-2012
Divorce 9-2012
4 kids all adults.
Married 22+ years.
I have moved on and life is good!
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 1:33 PM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
Is what worth it?
Putting my life together after he left? Taking care of myself? Choosing to find reasons to be happy? Focusing on the positive things? Trying to date again? (I have so far only had moderate success with that)
I don't really understand the question.
I never questioned whether moving on was worth it. What alternative is there? Being a miserable sad sack mired in the past dwelling on what could have been?
That's a no brainer for me. 
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
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