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movingforward13 posted 7/20/2014 08:52 AM

For those of you who have found love again after your divorce, especially to those who are remarried, was everything you went through concerning infidelity worth it to have what you have now?

I am struggling with this.... And trying to sort of out feelings to figure out what is really bothering me.

InnerLight posted 7/20/2014 09:41 AM

Worth it?

It is just hard to assign worth to something so hideous.

Am I stronger and wiser? Yes.
Am I happier? In some ways, yes, in some ways, no.
Have a learned a lot about myself? Hell, yes!

Williesmom posted 7/20/2014 16:29 PM

I have not found love again, and I've been divorced for 6 years. It has been totally worth it.

My life is mine now. I have met some very nice people that I wouldn't have otherwise met (male and female).

I have gotten to do so many cool things. If I die tomorrow, I feel that this has been a life well lived.

Sad in AZ posted 7/20/2014 16:49 PM

I had a brief fling with love post D. It was a wild ride but it wasn't meant to be. I weathered it much better than the situation with the X

Like Williesmom, I'm enjoying my single life--immensely!

bigskyblues posted 7/22/2014 05:53 AM

I don't know that I can say it was "worth it."

I learned a lot from the experience though, and I can say I am happier now than I have been in a very long time. Life is good and for the most part the infidelity trauma is gone from my life.

BSB

Amazonia posted 7/22/2014 07:33 AM

Is what worth it?

Putting my life together after he left? Taking care of myself? Choosing to find reasons to be happy? Focusing on the positive things? Trying to date again? (I have so far only had moderate success with that)

I don't really understand the question.

I never questioned whether moving on was worth it. What alternative is there? Being a miserable sad sack mired in the past dwelling on what could have been?

That's a no brainer for me.