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User Topic: So this is what it's like to have friends
Pass
♂ 38122
Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 10:00 PM, July 20th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

After a great nine-day stay here, my boys went back to The Princess this afternoon. I did a post on facebook about how quiet the apartment suddenly is. About an hour after that, one of my music friends - who I didn't even know a year ago - texted me:

On my way over with my guitar. I have wine.

Turns out, that's what it's like to have friends: They notice when you need company, and they make sure you have it. And most importantly, they bring wine!

I had no idea what it was like to NOT be isolated from people who might actually be nice to me. My life is slowly finding a good place to be!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 2157 | Registered: Jan 2013
Angeles85
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Member # 42107
Default  Posted: 10:12 PM, July 20th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm glad you have good friends Pass! You deserve them.

Posts: 142 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Los Angeles
MovingUpward
♂ 14866
Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 10:15 PM, July 20th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 53335 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 10:47 PM, July 20th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Isn't it wonderful? I love my friends so much and they have really stepped up for me too!

I am to the point now that I have become "that friend" for a few people in my life going through this roller coaster of emotions. I am so happy to give back!


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3631 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
Acer0112
♀ 43241
Member # 43241
Default  Posted: 12:25 AM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wonderful!! That is so genuine.

I agree, friends that I haven't seen in years have genuinely asked to get together to be there for me,

One of them ironically saw WH with OW the other night, her email to me said, I hope he is being honest with you, you deserve the best and nothing less. It's a shock to my college friends as they all enjoyed WH and loved us as a couple.


D-Day 1/24/14
D-Day2 04/08/14, false R
17yrs married, 23yrs together
Two kids 13, 11
Divorced 10/2014

Posts: 201 | Registered: Apr 2014
deena
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Default  Posted: 1:27 AM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is good friends that boost your confidence back up and give you that warm feeling.

I am so glad when I finally told my close friends......and boy they sure stood up for me in a big way.

Enjoy your friends!!!!


Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's
better to leave them broken than to hurt
yourself putting it back together.


Posts: 3204 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Canada
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 8:41 AM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LIKE!!!!!

If we had a like button, I'd be hitting it several times. 😊


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5744 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Pass
♂ 38122
Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 9:08 AM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks, y'all. I spend so much time complaining on here, that once in a while I like to tell the good stuff too.

I put up with The Princess isolating me from everyone except HER friends and family for years. Thanks to me finding out she was also a cheater, I found the strength to leave, and am discovering a whole new life. And I love it!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 2157 | Registered: Jan 2013
norabird
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Default  Posted: 11:08 AM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How amazing.


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4235 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 11:40 AM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Very cool realization, Pass. Sounds like he's a great friend.

My friends drug me through the divorce when I was unable to walk on my own. They fed me, made me laugh, and listened to me cry. I have one friend from Italy that called and screamed at wxh in Italian because he was too pissed off to speak English.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7866 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
LifeIsBroken
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Default  Posted: 8:47 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Like Williesmom, my friends carried me through this mess. It was like they came out of the woodwork and circled the wagons to make sure I survived the devastation. I learned I had friends I didn't even KNOW I had ! Their support was amazing and I DID SURVIVE infidelity, thanks to all of them and our two amazing daughters. Lean on your friends, Pass…. after all, would you not do the same for them ?


BW: 59
XH: 60
Married 34 yrs, LIBerated: 2/17/11
MOW: 50 (she said she wanted a sugar daddy; xh said, "I'M HIM!")
Actions ALWAYS have consequences. Too bad cheaters don't consider the consequences BEFORE they create so much damage.

Posts: 537 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Missouri & Massachusetts
Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 9:13 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When they are real, "Friends" is one of the few good F words there is!


Ashland 13

You gave me nothing and now it's all I've got - Bono

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington


Posts: 2424 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
careerlady
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Default  Posted: 2:13 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's really cool! My family has carried me through but they are out of town. Have some friends but they all have toddlers and busy lives.... Happy for you!


Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

Posts: 943 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California
Pass
♂ 38122
Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 2157 | Registered: Jan 2013
Myname
♂ 23138
Member # 23138
Default  Posted: 9:42 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great post. Made me

That is the definition of a real friend.


DD: 1-14-09 EA/PA OM #1
TT: 5-11&12-09
DD#2: 5-18-09 EA OM #2
5-31-09: Told me she hasn't loved me.
No kids
Me BH: 38
12-08-10: S

Posts: 3156 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: Inside your computer.
jagged
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Default  Posted: 9:47 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Damn. My musician friends never bring wine...they drink all of mine.


One foot in and one foot back
But it don't pay to live like that
So I cut the ties and I jumped the tracks
For never to return

Posts: 333 | Registered: May 2011 | From: TX
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