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User Topic: Dad has passed
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My father passed away late last night. Although we knew he didn't have much time left, the end came very quickly. The hospice and nursing home staff were amazing, caring very tenderly for Dad and supporting and comforting our family as well, just as they did when we lost Mom last November.

It was a privilege to be with him at the end, holding his hands and comforting him as he took his last breaths. Three of my siblings were there as well, and the other five siblings who weren't able to make it back in time were each able to speak their final words to him over the phone. I believe he heard every one of us, even though he was unable to respond.

Dad always said that the best decision he ever made in his life to was ask Mom to marry him, the greatest fortune in his life was that she said yes, and his biggest joy was the family they built together - 9 children, 20 grandchildren, and 4 great grandchildren.

There is deep sadness today, but also peace in knowing he is at rest, and tremendous gratitude for his life and his love.


...And when great souls die,
after a period peace blooms,
slowly and always
irregularly. Spaces fill
with a kind of
soothing electric vibration.
Our senses, restored, never
to be the same, whisper to us.
They existed. They existed.
We can be. Be and be
better. For they existed.

Maya Angelou - When Great Trees Fall


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love you NIK. We're all here with you.


"Welcome the rawness of vulnerability as an opportunity to open." - Pema Chodron

Me: BW 35
Crazz: WH 33
Daughter: 4.5 Going on 16


Posts: 18703 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
betrayedfriend
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Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nik, I'm so very sorry for the loss of your beloved father, he has left a tremendous legacy for you in his love for his family.


I originally joined SI as a way to help my best friends find ways of coping with infidelity, but now infidelity has touched my family much closer to home.

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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 1:05 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((( NIK )))
I'm so sorry for your loss.


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Done

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity/typos.


Posts: 6749 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
Tred
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Default  Posted: 1:08 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My deep condolences NIK.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
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Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 1:08 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK))))

My heart is heavy for all the sadness you've been dealing with in recent months.

I'm so very sorry for your loss


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 1:10 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm very sorry for your loss hun


A relationship without trust is like a car without gas. You can stay in it all you want, but it won't go anywhere.

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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 1:17 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK)))

Sorry for your loss.


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 1:20 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Nik & family)))

I'm so sorry. Sending love and hugs.


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LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 1:25 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((NIK and Family))))

I am so very sorry for your loss. It sounds like you and your siblings really helped him have a peaceful passing.

Many hugs to you.


There will come a time, you'll see, with no more tears. And love will not break your heart, but dismiss your fears.

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norabird
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Default  Posted: 1:26 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((NIK)))))

I am so sorry. It sounds like an end that is a testament to his life. The poem is perfect.


Sit. Feast on your life.

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brokeninfl
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Default  Posted: 1:26 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry for your loss. (((NIK)))


"On the other side of fear lies freedom"

Me - 36 BS
Him - doesn't matter
2 DS
DD 11/08
Divorced.


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Lalagirl
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Default  Posted: 1:28 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((NIK)))))

I am so very sorry.


Me - 49; FWH - 51
Married 31 years 9/2/14
2 grown daughters-30 & 27
5yo GS,2yo GD & 3 mo. GD (DD30) and 2.5 yo GD(DD27). D-day #1 - 1/06; D-day #2 - 3/07
Reconciled! Construction Complete.

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DixieD
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Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry NIK. My deepest condolences. Hugs for you and all your family during your time of loss and grief.


Growing forward

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Pentup
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Default  Posted: 1:40 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK)))
What a legacy he leaves in you.


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

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AmSoDone
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Default  Posted: 1:42 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Nik)))

So sorry for your loss. He sounds like a wonderful man, he's at peace now.


BP(me) 50
WP (scumbag) 52
On-off for 32 years
1DD
1 DGD
Too many D Days to count. Same with OW.

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metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((((((((((Nik)))))))))))))

We can be. Be and be
better. For they existed.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 1:56 PM, July 21st (Monday)]



“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin

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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 1:59 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((NIK)))))


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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MissesJai
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Default  Posted: 2:02 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((NIK)))


FWW - 41
"Don't think first about the risks of speaking up. Think first about the risks of not speaking up." ~ Kerry Patterson

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TrulyReconciled
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Default  Posted: 2:02 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((NIK))))) It was his good fortune to have most of you there, and I'm sure very comforting.


"In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act."

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