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nowiknow23 (original poster member #33226) posted at 7:01 PM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
My father passed away late last night. Although we knew he didn't have much time left, the end came very quickly. The hospice and nursing home staff were amazing, caring very tenderly for Dad and supporting and comforting our family as well, just as they did when we lost Mom last November.
It was a privilege to be with him at the end, holding his hands and comforting him as he took his last breaths. Three of my siblings were there as well, and the other five siblings who weren't able to make it back in time were each able to speak their final words to him over the phone. I believe he heard every one of us, even though he was unable to respond.
Dad always said that the best decision he ever made in his life to was ask Mom to marry him, the greatest fortune in his life was that she said yes, and his biggest joy was the family they built together - 9 children, 20 grandchildren, and 4 great grandchildren.
There is deep sadness today, but also peace in knowing he is at rest, and tremendous gratitude for his life and his love.
...And when great souls die,
after a period peace blooms,
slowly and always
irregularly. Spaces fill
with a kind of
soothing electric vibration.
Our senses, restored, never
to be the same, whisper to us.
They existed. They existed.
We can be. Be and be
better. For they existed.
Maya Angelou - When Great Trees Fall
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 7:04 PM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
Love you NIK. We're all here with you.
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
betrayedfriend ( member #19785) posted at 7:04 PM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
Nik, I'm so very sorry for the loss of your beloved father, he has left a tremendous legacy for you in his love for his family.
I originally joined SI as a way to help my best friends find ways of coping with infidelity, but now infidelity has touched my family much closer to home.
GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 7:05 PM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
((( NIK )))
I'm so sorry for your loss. 
Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
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Tred ( member #34086) posted at 7:08 PM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
Married: 27 years (14 @JFO) D-Day: 11/09/11"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)
Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 7:08 PM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
(((NIK))))
My heart is heavy for all the sadness you've been dealing with in recent months.
I'm so very sorry for your loss
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 7:10 PM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
I'm very sorry for your loss hun
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 7:17 PM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
(((NIK)))
Sorry for your loss. 
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 7:20 PM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
(((Nik & family)))
I'm so sorry. Sending love and hugs.
LosferWords ( member #30369) posted at 7:25 PM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
((((NIK and Family))))
I am so very sorry for your loss. It sounds like you and your siblings really helped him have a peaceful passing.
Many hugs to you.
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 7:26 PM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
((((NIK)))))
I am so sorry. It sounds like an end that is a testament to his life. The poem is perfect.
brokeninfl ( member #21896) posted at 7:26 PM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
I am so sorry for your loss. (((NIK)))
"On the other side of fear lies freedom"
Me - 39 BS
Him - doesn't matter
2 DS
DD 11/08
Divorced.
Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 7:28 PM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
((((NIK)))))
I am so very sorry.
2025: Me-59 FWH-61 Married 41 years grown daughters- 41 & 37. 1 GS,11yo GD & 9yo GD (DD40); Five grands ages 15 to 8. D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant
DixieD ( member #33457) posted at 7:29 PM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
I'm so sorry NIK. My deepest condolences. Hugs for you and all your family during your time of loss and grief.
Pentup ( member #20563) posted at 7:40 PM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
(((NIK)))
What a legacy he leaves in you.
Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)
AmSoDone ( member #43871) posted at 7:42 PM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
(((Nik)))
So sorry for your loss. He sounds like a wonderful man, he's at peace now.
BP(me) 53
WP (scumbag) 55
On-off for 32 years
1DD
1 DGD
Too many D Days to count. Same with OW.
metamorphisis ( member #12041) posted at 7:55 PM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
(((((((((((((Nik)))))))))))))
We can be. Be and be
better. For they existed.
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Go softly my sweet friend. You will always be a part of who I am.
authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 7:59 PM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.
MissesJai ( member #24849) posted at 8:02 PM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
44
Happily divorcing..
My Life is Mine!!!!
#BlackLivesMatter
Don't settle for no fuck shit....
TrulyReconciled ( member #3031) posted at 8:02 PM on Monday, July 21st, 2014
(((((NIK))))) It was his good fortune to have most of you there, and I'm sure very comforting.
"In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act."
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