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Topic: Well, isn't *this* funny.
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Ascendant
♂ 38303
Member # 38303 |  Posted: 6:12 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014 |     |
So, you know that point in reconciliation where the WS gets all paranoid that you are going to have an RA and starts doing things like reading your SI posts and/or PMs? And then has the nerve to try issue YOU a boundaries lecture? Even though you have nothing to hide and keep yourself logged in to SI at all times on the common family computer?
This is extra hilarious when your WS has their own SI username that they've used....mmmm....let's say twice, but chooses to creep via yours instead. I know this is something somewhat common, but man.... 
Posts: 5173 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: North of Chicago, Illinois |
TheIrishGirl
♀ 43496
Member # 43496 | | Posted: 6:32 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014 | |
My WH finds participation on these boards somewhat suspect. WTF. He's the one that cheated via message boards. But they were porn & sex ones. Try again.
Me: 33, BW Him: 40, fWH
Together 11y, married 8
2 children (ours) 7/11 & 3/14
D-day 4/18/14 I saw his 'other' email
Working on R, and it's working
Posts: 3226 | Registered: May 2014 |
healingroad
♂ 41920
Member # 41920 | | Posted: 6:44 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014 | |
Projection, anyone?
XBH 50, 2DS
M 20 years
Now remarried to a faithful wife
Posts: 1579 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: California |
tired girl
♀ 28053
Member # 28053 | | Posted: 8:08 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014 | |
Is there a reason why she is all of the sudden feeling insecure about things?
Me 47 Him 47 Hardlessons
DS 27,25,23
D Day's becoming less important as time moves on.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt
My bad for trying to locate remorse on your morality map. OITNB
Posts: 7444 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: Inside my head |
deena04
♀ 41741
Member # 41741 | | Posted: 8:15 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014 | |
Ah, insecurity over their own deeds! That is what it looks like to me anyhow.
Me FBS around 40
Him FWS early 40s (lovemywife4ever)
He cheated before M, forgot to tell me
"Free at last, free at last, thank God Almighty we are free at last" - MLK Jr
Posts: 2206 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Midwest |
MovingUpward
♂ 14866
Member # 14866 | | Posted: 9:51 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014 | |
I know your post shows irony, and you got to get that out. Unfortunately I feel this kind of posting can regress your reconciliation efforts. When I am lucky enough to meet the members face to face, I often get a better idea of who they are. I really hope that when I met you and your W that it wasn't a charade (Which I don't think it was) because my gut was telling me that you two have a great shot at reconciling.
So kudos to you for being open with your postings and PMs. Hopefully you can encourage her to open up and dig down to what might be driving this fear. Communication is a key. Validation is a key. Patience is a key. Listening is a key. As well as Compassion is a key. For either one of you has the sole power to derail R. It will take the two of you working together to make R succeed.
Posts: 54405 | Registered: Jun 2007 |
Ascendant
♂ 38303
Member # 38303 | | Posted: 10:02 PM, July 21st (Monday), 2014 | |
Thanks to everyone who read my little sarcastic vent. After reading Moo's advice, I've decided that this is something dealt with more appropriately privately. Thanks to all.
Posts: 5173 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: North of Chicago, Illinois |
sisoon
♂ 31240
Member # 31240 | | Posted: 8:52 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014 | |
Some random thoughts...
I've decided that this is something dealt with more appropriately privately.
That's great, assuming 'privately' means direct discussions with your W inside or outside MC.
And it's really nice to have a place to vent.
Have you considered placing each other's threads or posts off-limits to each other? That won't work perfectly for folks who vent a lot, but it gives each of you some safety.
fBH (me) - 66 on d-day, Married 43, together 45 on d-day, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
Most of us know only our own experience. That's not enough data to support a general rule that D, or R, is right in every sitch.
Posts: 16581 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Illinois |
jo2love
♀ 31528
Member # 31528 |  Posted: 10:40 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014 | |
Locking per OP's request.
Posts: 50575 | Registered: Mar 2011 |
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