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threeofus (original poster member #9242) posted at 1:35 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
Is there a word to describe a person who cheats on their mate with mulitple people at the same time? I thought it may be serial cheater, but for some reason I think I am wrong. Help me out!
D-Day: 08-10-05
Married: 19 Years
Together : 20 Years
Kids: 24 Year Old Daughter
me: BS, 44
him: fWS, 42
D May 2010
Dated SO 3 Years
D Day 07 05 14
Boiled down to being with someone I could not trust or being alone twice.
somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 1:45 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
..how about 'sociopath' ???
..I can think of a few more but I'll leave those to your imagination 
smy 
trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!
totalheartbreak ( member #41589) posted at 1:53 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
“You know hope is a mistake. If you can’t fix what’s broken, you’ll go insane.” - Max Rockatansky
The smart man divorces a lawyer.
The smarter man never marries one in the first place.
To her we were never worth the effort. :-/
deena04 ( member #41741) posted at 2:17 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
Sad, that comes to mind as it is sad how broken someone is and breaks their BS.
Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.
HurtingandLost ( member #29322) posted at 2:32 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
Seriously broken individual with zero boundaries. There are additional vulgar descriptions that would be appropriate that I will leave to your imagination
tryingmybest2011 ( member #32584) posted at 3:28 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
BS: me - 42
WH: him - 42
DD: 12
DD: 5
Married over 12 years, together for 21.
DD#1: 12/12/10 - LTA of 3 years, 2 mos.
DD#2: 02/02/11 - 2 EA/PA with coworkers, a month after the LTA was ended (by OW).
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 4:58 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
In my case we called him "husband".
Serial cheater, philanderer, whore, FUBAR. cheataholic.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
Salt ( member #43726) posted at 6:34 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
Sociopath
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/08/23/11-signs-dating-a-sociopath_n_3780417.html
BS, 55, Divorced
I read and walked for miles at night along the beach, writing bad blank verse and searching endlessly for someone wonderful who would step out of the darkness and change my life. It never crossed my mind that that person would be me.
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 8:42 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
That type is called a sex addict.
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
Ostrich80 ( member #34827) posted at 8:44 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
Womanizer for a wh, a ww? Idk . Habitual cheater plus a whole array of the usual bad words. I'd say most definitely a sociopath.
BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????
threeofus (original poster member #9242) posted at 11:30 AM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
Thanks for the responses everyone. I went to IC and was told that my ex BF is a sex addict. I found out he was cheating through his phone. There were text messages in there from around 30 women....I am not exaggerating! The messages indicated that there was actual sex, phone sex, planning to have sex, explicit pictures....etc. it all made me sick. Women from different States were in the phone. I learned from the phone that he was on at least two dating sites. My emotions are all over the place. I think I am still in shock. I shoild be crying constant, but I don't. I found this out about two weeks ago. Just feel numb most of the time.
How does a person manage that much at one time??????? Now I know why he stayed stressed so much.
D-Day: 08-10-05
Married: 19 Years
Together : 20 Years
Kids: 24 Year Old Daughter
me: BS, 44
him: fWS, 42
D May 2010
Dated SO 3 Years
D Day 07 05 14
Boiled down to being with someone I could not trust or being alone twice.
heme ( member #40684) posted at 12:00 PM on Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014
They don't really manage it, not in the sense that they care or or do anything for the other people involved. They use and move on to the next person. There is no emotion, compassion or even thought for the other person when you are talking about someone like that.
BS: Me (30)
WS: Husband (31)
Married 8 years, together 9
D-Day: Sept 10, 2013
D-Day2: May 31, 2014
Children: 5, ages 7, 5, 3, 1 and due in September
Leaning towards leaving, no one deserves this pain.
Ostrich80 ( member #34827) posted at 8:59 AM on Wednesday, July 23rd, 2014
Wow you must be in horrible shock. That's a whole lot to digest. I may be out of line and forgive me of I overstep but this sounds more like a personality disorder. I.mean 30 different women. Does the ic think he/she can unravel this man and get to the root of his problem? I hope you can detach and focus on
yourself. If he gets help, more power to him but I would want to distance myself while he's doing it. Just take one day at a time to regain yourself individuallly. I'm so sorry this happened to you.
BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????
cosmicjoke ( member #39159) posted at 9:41 AM on Wednesday, July 23rd, 2014
william ( member #41986) posted at 12:38 PM on Wednesday, July 23rd, 2014
my wife 
me - bh
her - lara01
from 09/11 - 05/13
2 ONS, 10 sexting partners, 1 LT EA/PA
??/06/13 DD/1 - admits to LT EA, begin false R.
01/13/14 DD/2 - LTA was PA.
01/18/14 DD/3 - sexting 5 guys.
01/19/14 DD/4 - 2 ONS with different guys
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