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User Topic: Non-update on my work situation
Sad in AZ
♀ 24239
Member # 24239
Default  Posted: 2:29 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tonight I was subjected to a witch hunt. The HR generalist and my manager came to our location to interview EVERYONE on my staff.

It started with the team lead. She was so 'distraught' that they put her on administrative leave It's such bullshit. What about my distress? I have to keep going, keep the lab running and perform my job duties, those of my staff on FMLA, and now the team lead's duties. I'm working 9-12 hour days plus weekends. I'm so frustrated.

One bit of levity--each one of my staff was called in to talk to the HR rep. When one of them returned to the lab, she said she was asked, "How is it in the lab?" and she responded, "It's freezing in there!" It didn't occur to her that she was being asked about the atmosphere...

I guess I need to craft another email to the HR manager...


Hallelujah! Holy shit! Where's the tylenol?

Posts: 20560 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 8:51 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh, SAZ. I'm so sorry you're dealing with all this crap. Sending you strength, honey. (((((hugs))))))


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


Posts: 26516 | Registered: Aug 2011
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 8:58 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh. Hang in there Sazzy.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17796 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Sad)))

I'm sorry you are going through this. Sending you strength.


Posts: 36807 | Registered: Mar 2011
Crescita
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Default  Posted: 9:55 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Boo. While it still sounds like your manager has no idea what she is doing, I'm guessing the "climate" will improve dramatically in drama queen's absence, and it will be made much clearer.

(((Sazzy)))


“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

Posts: 3578 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
Cally60
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Default  Posted: 7:34 PM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And if - as seems likely - the people working for you are happy with your leadership, the individual interviews might be greatly to your advantage. (That's what happened in the case of someone in my family, anyway. )

[This message edited by Cally60 at 7:37 PM, July 22nd (Tuesday)]


Posts: 2206 | Registered: Mar 2009
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 10:58 PM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((((((SAZ)))))))))))

I wonder when they'll get a clue?

Don't forget to document this latest event.

Hugs.
K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5744 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 8:41 AM, July 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry you're going through all of this. It's not right.


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
Sad in AZ
♀ 24239
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Default  Posted: 1:15 PM, July 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know what to make of this news. We desperately need a new scanner for our requisitions. Now, the vice president of the entire division is coming tomorrow to deliver and install it. He's the VP of the Northeast division. WTF.

I hope I'm making a mountain out of a molehill. Maybe he's on his way to a vacation destination and we're on the way...right...


Hallelujah! Holy shit! Where's the tylenol?

Posts: 20560 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
Pentup
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Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, July 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hoping it goes your way. I would have my resume polished up just in case.


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

Posts: 6718 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
yewtree
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Default  Posted: 9:02 PM, July 23rd (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sad, I don't like this. Did you ever get the opportunity to talk to someone in HR about the initial experience?
I'm sorry but it sounds like you are being set up.


Me(BS)45(at the time of D-day)

Divorced 2009, Closing on house Nov 2011 -
No longer waiting for the other "she" to drop.


Posts: 4712 | Registered: Oct 2007
itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 7:32 AM, July 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck today.

It does sounds like you're being set up.

My stomach bottomed out reading that the VP is coming to "install a scanner". Yeah...that's something the IT dept does.


Posts: 3432 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: NWPA
Sad in AZ
♀ 24239
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Default  Posted: 8:48 AM, July 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have all of my backup information. I have statements from both my manager and the HR department that they've been trying to get rid of this team lead for years (what is so difficult??), I've been doing my job plus all the other empty positions (including the team leads because she's been on administrative leave since Monday). I don't know what else I can do.

One piece of good news is that my data entry person came back from medical leave yesterday. This woman is amazing. She's close to 70, had MAJOR surjery (opened from her abdomen to her knees) and is back at work after 7 weeks--she was bored So last night I was able to help out in the lab. One of my staff commented about how calm it was without all of the negative energy (she didn't mention the team lead by name.) We kicked ass and got most of the work done, even though we were short-handed.

I get results; we'll see if it's enough.


Hallelujah! Holy shit! Where's the tylenol?

Posts: 20560 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
Crescita
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Default  Posted: 9:21 AM, July 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Although they are handling it poorly, it sounds more like they are building a case against the lead. Generally being placed on leave is bad, isn't it?


“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

Posts: 3578 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
norabird
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Default  Posted: 9:42 AM, July 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so annoyed and angry about all this! The one person who is getting everything done being persecuted by the one person poisoning the atmosphere...

Sending you mojo.


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4235 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
Sad in AZ
♀ 24239
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Default  Posted: 10:13 AM, July 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Cresc, she was placed on leave because she was so 'distraught'. Yes, distraught that she wasn't getting her own way, which includes getting me fired.

In fact, the head of HR said they should have placed her on admin leave right after the confrontation that my manager orchestrated, so they are giving her a pass on the two nonconsecutive days she called in sick--which were not immediately after the confrontation--so that negates the attendance disciplinary action

They are so afraid of being sued, even if there is no case.


Hallelujah! Holy shit! Where's the tylenol?

Posts: 20560 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:15 AM, July 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((SAZ)))) Sending you good mojo for today.


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


Posts: 26516 | Registered: Aug 2011
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 10:21 AM, July 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Meanwhile there are tons of unemployed people who would happily take her place and do the job well.

((( Sazzy )))


Me - 42
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Done

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity/typos.


Posts: 6741 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
yewtree
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Default  Posted: 8:40 PM, July 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, any news? Fingers crossed!


Me(BS)45(at the time of D-day)

Divorced 2009, Closing on house Nov 2011 -
No longer waiting for the other "she" to drop.


Posts: 4712 | Registered: Oct 2007
persevere
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Default  Posted: 10:52 PM, July 24th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've been thinking about you SAZ - how did it go?


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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