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User Topic: looking for divorce attorney W of chicago
♂ 44049
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Default  Posted: 3:13 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Anyone know of a really good divorce attorney, west of Chicago?
PM me for my county.
I need one ASAP!

Me (49), WW (44), 2 Awesome DDs
DDay 6/2/2014 - 16 years married
Possibly new or continuing A, currently.
Worst experience of my life. Still having a tough time dealing with this. I appreciate your support, more than I can express.

Posts: 178 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: Midwest
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Default  Posted: 4:22 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know of an attorney out that way, but here are some pointers for finding a good one.

1.) This is a peer and client rating service for attorneys. You can search by practice area, geographic area, etc. Some things to look for: membership activity in the local and state Bar Association (particularly if they have had any leadership roles in the Family Law division), practice areas (get someone who does only Family Law), length of time in the profession (find someone who has been doing this a while) and firm experience and expertise. It is not unusual to have a "boutique" family law section within a large firm, but a smaller firm that specializes only in family law might be just as good or better.

2.) This site is a little more commercial, but if you have looked on Martindale and have a few names, you might start seeing the same names and the same firms coming up again and again. This is a good sign. Again, search by practice area and geographic area. Don't ignore the "rising star" section, especially if you have one or two superlawyers in a firm with a rising star. This shows they mentor--a rising star may be a good bet and somewhat less money.

3.) Your local city magazine most likely runs a "best of" edition once a year. Again, you should start seeing some firm and individual names again and again in all three resources. These are the people you should research.

Once you start seeing the same names and firms come up again and again, look at their websites and study their activity. Google search their cases. Since you're a man, I would highly recommend you find someone very, very experienced in dad's rights.

Lawyers are expensive, and those at the top of their game charge quite a bit. You can save money by being prepared to not waste their time. You can ask what you can do to keep your bills down. Little things like doing all your own copying at the Kinko's or Staples and organizing all of your discovery information so that they can easily find things (you should also make another copy for the opposing attorney--saves even more money).

Finally, you can ask friends and family who they might recommend and cross-reference their recommendations with your own research.


FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 27 and 24. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
"An erection does not count as personal growth."

Posts: 31213 | Registered: Apr 2003 | From: Massachusetts
♂ 43899
Member # 43899
Default  Posted: 7:12 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's nice to see you in this forum DG. It sucks that you're here, but your STBXWW gave you every reason to pursue D.

Keep your chin up!

I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. I will permit it to pass over me and through me.

DDay - June 2014
DD 2008 & 2011
Divorced April 1, 2015

Posts: 2222 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: Ontario
♀ 16928
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Default  Posted: 8:21 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

FYI DG, Illinois is a fault state. You already have physical proof of adultery.

Me:BW Him: FWH E/A
M: 30 years, together 37 : both guilty of PAs 20+ years ago
CDay#1 Oct 06 (false); DDay#2 Oct 07 (truth from OW's BH)
R: Tenaciously optimistic

Posts: 862 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Midwest
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Default  Posted: 8:28 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Agree with super lawyers, also

Found my first L through a recommendation from a family member. Fired him after several months of getting nowhere and hired the guy I found on superlawyers/avoo strictly based on credentials/awards/customer reviews. Best move I've made so far. (Other than filing, of course!)

Good luck!

[This message edited by nekorb at 9:17 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday)]

Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman

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Default  Posted: 8:45 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I second avvo because clients also post feedback on the lawyers there. This might sound strange, but check yelp, as well.

There is always a rainbow after every storm.

Posts: 415 | Registered: May 2013 | From: California
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Default  Posted: 9:42 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Keep in mind that Chicago lawyers very often are more than happy to travel to other counties---so as you search for the BEST father's right attorney, don't rule out ones from the city, where the waters are better chummed for sharks.

My only other suggestion is to search the licensure status of any candidates on the ARDC's website; it's unusual for attorneys to be sanctioned, so if you see actions/sanctions against a license, it is a red flag, and I'd likely avoid that attorney. (Complaints, I view with more skepticism; people complain. But if a sanction follows, then it raises my eyebrows.)

BS-me, 55; WX-irrelevant
Divorced after an eternity
"So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tenn

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Red  Posted: 10:38 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

deceivedguy -

SI is not a referral service. Please contact your local bar association.

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