So WH wrote a NC letter by hand and we mailed it Sunday. I've been thinking of writing the OW's BH to tell him about the affair. WH said he found one of WH's letters last fall, but that didn't end their relationship. I only have their home address, no work addy or cell phone#, so the OW might get the mail and take the letter. Is it worth it to write to him?
Buttercup: We'll never survive.
Westley: Nonsense. You're only saying that because no one ever has.
If you really decide you want to sent it certified receipt with his signature only accepted. It costs money but you'll know he got it.
Married 27 years. Together 29.
3 children 24, 21, 14
OW sex addict and romance addict according to MC. WH just your ordinary asshole.
I agree, that if you send a letter to his home, the wife will likely intercept it.
Last Friday, two of his XAPs tried contacting him--one to "friend" him on a fitness website (he declined and cancelled his account) and then this OW, who, being the only longterm PAP, is the most threatening to me. So I'm pretty freaked out now.
I guess I'll just let it go and ride the roller coaster of feelings until I hit a better place. Thanks to everyone for their input!
Can you check LinkedIn or Google to get a work contact for him?
If you send anything to their home send it certified mail so you'll know he got it, but since interception is likely, I'd find out where he works and try that route, it's a better bet. Telling is the right thing to do. Best of luck to ya.
[This message edited by Questioningall at 5:52 PM, July 22nd (Tuesday)]
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